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How To Heal From Narcissistic Abuse & Break Free
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Fearful Avoidants have some of the most beautiful traits in relationships; depth, passion, empathy, intensity, and generosity.
But when core wounds go unhealed, long-term relationships can become a cycle of hot and cold dynamics, emotional walls, and unresolved power struggles.
Episode Summary
In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through what marriage or a long-term relationship can look like with an unhealed fearful avoidant attachment style.
During the dating stage, Fearful Avoidants often show up as their most generous, insightful, and connected selves because deep attachment fears haven’t fully activated yet .
But as commitment deepens in the honeymoon stage, fears of betrayal, abandonment, rejection, or being trapped begin to surface. The more they care, the more vulnerable they feel and vulnerability can feel threatening instead of safe.
Without healing, this often leads to getting stuck in the power struggle stage, where:
Small issues trigger large emotional reactions
Feelings are suppressed instead of communicated
Push-pull dynamics intensify
Arguments erupt over minor surface-level issues
Breakups become cyclical
While secure couples move through the power struggle stage and into stability, commitment, and eventually bliss, an unhealed Fearful Avoidants may remain stuck there long term.
The good news? These patterns are not personality flaws, they are conditioned core wounds that can be rewired.
In this episode, you’ll also learn the four essential healing steps:
• Work through your core wounds
• Identify and meet your needs
• Regulate your nervous system
• Communicate and uphold boundaries clearly
Because long-term love isn’t about avoiding conflict.
It’s about learning how to move through it securely.
Key Takeaways
✔️Why Fearful Avoidants thrive in early dating but struggle with commitment
✔️How betrayal, abandonment, and “I Am Trapped” wounds get activated
✔️Why unspoken fears create push-pull dynamics
✔️What the power struggle stage looks like long term
✔️Why suppressing vulnerability leads to emotional eruptions
✔️The difference between unhealed Attachment and Secure Attachment
✔️The four-step framework to heal fearful avoidant patterns
Timestamps
00:00 – What Does Marriage Look Like With an Unhealed Fearful Avoidant?
02:11 – 1. The Dating Stage
05:40 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo
06:29 – 2. The Honeymoon Stage
10:29 – 3. The Power Struggle Stage
11:13 – The Stability, Commitment, and Bliss Stages
14:21 – Step 1: Work Through Your Core Wounds
14:45 – Step 2: Learn About Your Needs / Step 3: Learn to Regulate Your Nervous System
15:03 – Step 4: Communicate and Share Your Boundaries With Others
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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