Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course FREE for life when you start your 7-day trial of the All-Access Pass: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-30-26&el=podcast If you’re caught in cycles of emotional pain, overthinking, or fear of getting close again, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to start healing at the root. Episode Summary Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally; they can activate deep attachment wounds that keep us stuck in fear, rumination, and self-doubt. In this episode, we explore why commitment can feel so threatening after heartbreak, how the subconscious mind enters “flaw-finding mode,” and why the boomerang effect can pull us back into unhealthy dynamics. You’ll learn how to separate genuine feelings from fear-based reactions, why holding no contact is so powerful for healing, and how to begin rewriting old emotional stories so you can create secure, healthy relationships moving forward. Key Takeaways Why fear of commitment often intensifies after a breakup How to distinguish real feelings from subconscious fear responses What “flaw-finding mode” is and how it sabotages the connection The boomerang effect and why it keeps pulling you back Why holding no contact supports nervous system regulation How routines help rewire old attachment patterns Practical steps to heal emotionally and move forward with clarity Timestamps 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:31 – A Fear of Commitment 00:02:40 – Feelings Minus Fears 00:04:31 – Flaw Finding Mode 00:05:56 – Boomerang Effect 00:08:50 – IAT Promo 00:09:43 – Hold No Contact 00:10:44 – Rewrite Our Old Stories 00:11:46 – Find a Routine 00:12:30 – Conclusion / How to Heal From a Breakup Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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