The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm
Episodes
A Meditation from the Darkness for You — with Traver Boehm
25 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hey folks, here is an early morning guided meditation from you before I take a hiatus from the podcast for a few weeks to reintegrate from my dark ret...
#416 The Wisdom Only Dying Will Give You — with Stephen Jenkinson.
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Stephen Jenkinson is a treasure, he’s also a three time Uncivilized Podcast guest, now speaking to us from a difficult place. Usually the man sittin...
#415 Living an UNtamed Life by Following Your Truth with Kati Bird
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kati Bird is the very first person to teach me about Shibari, the Japanese bondage system. She now travels the world leading workshops, working with c...
#414 Using Primal Intelligence to Overcome Anxiety with Angus Fletcher
04 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Back for his second round on The UNcivilized Podcast, the man who trains Special Forces Operators on how to use chaos to their advantage and tap into ...
#413 Continually Writing the Story of Your Life with Miles Rote
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Miles rote started his career as United States Marine, then became a Police Officer, then a Private Investigator, then a yoga teacher, and now runs on...
#412 Dating after 40 with Andrea McGinty
21 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine dating in your twenties, getting married, and now in your mid forties or fifties, you’re back in the dating world — and it’s a mess!In t...
#411 Running 500 miles on Pyschedelics with Dante Liberato
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Yep, you read the title correctly. This week I sit down with a young man from Colorado Springs who is planning on running 500 miles with a team of doc...
#410 New and expecting fathers this is for you with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg
07 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a new dad, or know a new dad this episode is for you.Hell, even if you’re not one, this is an honest conversation about the massive init...
#409 - Entering the Dark — Episode 6: The Dark Retreat Preparation Guide
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most people think this is about mental toughness. It's not.This episode covers what I packed, what I wish I hadn't, what saved me, and what almost bro...
#408 - Entering the Dark — Episode 5: What I Learned About Masculinity in Total Darkness
23 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There's a lot of talk about masculinity out there. Most of it's noise.In the dark, I discovered a version of masculinity that had nothing to prove, no...
#407 - Entering the Dark — Episode 4: Darkness as Medicine -- Healing in Places You Avoid
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt.In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--gr...
#406 - Entering the Dark — Episode 3: Fear, Boredom, and Madness -- The Three Voices You'll Meet in Silence
09 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream?This episode is about the three characters that show...
#405 - Entering the Dark — Episode 2: What Happens When You Remove Every Distraction?
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away?In this one, I shar...
#404 - Entering the Dark — Episode 1: Why the Hell Would Anyone Sit in the Dark for 49 Days?
26 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one.In this episode, I di...
#403 - Why you’re willing to betray yourself to fit in and how to stop — with Traver Boehm
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved....
#402 - From porn to non ejaculatory orgasms with Taylor Johnson
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a man who has sex, or know one who does, this episode is for you.Taylor Johnson used to be addicted to porn. Heavily. And like so many men...
#401 - Five things you need to know in a breakup or divorce — with Traver Boehm
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce.My writing career kicked ...
The deep psychology of BDSM & Kink with Dr. Douglas Thomas
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it.After reading Dr. Thomas’s bo...
The price you pay for being uncommon — with Traver Boehm
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to ...
The truth about a 24 hour Dom/sub relationship with Andrew from Infinite Devotion
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you.Ever wonder what really happens in a...
Stuck? You’re not afraid of failure or success — w/ Traver Boehm
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Every time I have a client say their stuck because they’re afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you’re not. ...
Living from soul with Evan Meyer
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Now more than ever, people are craving a deeper experience of their lives. I bet you can relate. In this episode I speak with Boulder Outdoor Survival...
The way of the satisfied woman with Dr. Alanna Kaivalya
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Myth. Sex. Pleasure. Oh my.In this conversation with author and Depth Psychologist Dr. Alanna Kaivalya we jam on several aspects of relationship and f...
Jiujitsu, Breathwork, and following your own path — with Pat Divilly.
17 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I bring you another Irishman and a fascinating one at that. Pat is a good friend of the Uncivilized world and has been leading a life worthy of ...
All things men’s sexual health — with Dr. Kelly Casperson M.D.
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Considering the fact that it’s reason the species perpetuates, the difference between friendships and romantic relationships, as well as a MASSIVE s...
The primal and divine aspects in our bodies — with Michael Gay
03 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Michael Gay is Uncivilized royalty, having been there from the beginning and is one of our co-leaders in our workshops. He’s also a licensed therapi...
Numb is not a powerful way to live — with Chris Bale
24 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chris is an old friend of The Uncivilized Podcast and in his third appearance with us speaks to the ways that we all numb and disconnect from our bodi...
It's not too late to name your year.
17 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
NAME YOUR YEAR—START YOURS NOWIt’s February. Too late.(No it's not.)For years, men and women around the world have kicked off their journeys w...
Adayemi Adayosoye — Truth is the fire that purifies a man’s heart.
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk tantric sex, full body non ejaculatory orgasms, psychedelics, and the dark masculine… In this episode with renowned Men’s Leader Aday...
Live Nice Guy coaching session — embracing responsibility with Traver Boehm.
03 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode you get to peak behind the coaching curtain and watch me work one-on-one with a man who’s struggling bringing structure into his lif...
Sean Kipe — True Crime’s #1 Podcaster
27 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’m a True Crime dork, and if you are too, then this episode is for you. Hell, even if you’re not this episode will show the path of a man who was...
How do you heal as a Nice Guy during your breakup? A LIVE Coaching Call.
20 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who is going through a breakup or divorce — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Pod...
Gavin Meenan — Porn replaced her.
13 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Gavin Meenan is a world-class men’s coach in Ireland. But he wasn’t always. At one point, he was a porn-addicted young father, buried in grief and...
Hendrix Black — The Path to Financial Freedom for Men
06 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Hendrix and I dive into the ways men end up trapped with money, stuck in debt, and otherwise feeling disempowered when it comes to the...
TOP 5 REPLAY - The power of integrity and connection with Mark Groves
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The connection we create around us will always be the key to building relationships where we can be ourselves without the need to hide any feelings. I...
David Sutcliffe — You will make something your god.
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I stumbled upon David’s work just a short time ago and was immediately hooked. After leaving a successful acting career in Hollywood, David did what...
How to help your woman feel safe with Traver Boehm
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a big topic and one that often gets overlooked or misunderstood by most men. And, here at UNcivilized we’re interested in supporting you in ...
Raj Jana — Consciousness, EQ, and Entrepreneurship
09 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Raj Jana is wears many hats. CEO of a tech company, teacher, speaker, podcast host, and seeker. Getting to sit down with him here in Boulder was an in...
Top 5 — Bonner Rinn — The gift of the wound.
02 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Bonner Rinn is an extraordinary man and he’s a man with Cerebral Palsy. But honestly that’s not what’s interesting about him. What is interest...
How do you find and live your purpose. A Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
25 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who struggles with either finding or fully embodying your purpose — then this episode is for you. In this edition...
How to live the life you deserve with Sylvester McNutt III
18 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I sit down with 10 time author Sylvester McNutt. Sly is a good friend and brother who I’ve known for years now. His new book is all ...
Nicky Clinch — To heal or not to heal
11 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I met Nicky at a dinner in London two months ago and knew immediately I wanted to interview her. She runs a world wide company working with people at ...
Why do you struggle with your discipline? A Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
04 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who works in a service profession like coaching, teaching, or parenting — then this episode is for you. In this e...
Top 5 — Carly Rae Beaudry — Women’s sexual health and why you need to understand it.
28 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I was told NOT to do this interview. Why? Because “no one cares about women’s sexual health.” Well…that wasn’t true, as this is the 3rd most...
Ginger Kern: The devotion-based relationship.
21 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ginger Kern teaches primarily women how to be in relationship in a new paradigm. One based on mutual respect, devotion, and truth. She also adds that ...
Top 5 — Chris Bale — Undomesticate yourself as a man.
14 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chris Bale is one of the most unique men I know. He’s a fellow acupuncturist, a men’s guide, and an energy worker like no other. In this episode w...
Calling all procrastinators! A Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
07 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who likes to put off hard tasks to the very last minute, then of course, beat yourself up for doing so — and not ...
What’s blocking you from your instinct with Traver Boehm
30 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I’m taking the mic again for this short yet powerful episode on what I see as a major pain point for me — being disconnected from our instinct and...
Top 5 — Duey Freeman — Healing and Horses.
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Duey Freeman is an UNcivilized LEGEND. He’s shifted the UNcivilized Movement into a far more relational frame with his teachings, his facilitating a...
Kristal Desantis — Should men be more vulnerable?
16 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve been waiting YEARS to interview Kristal Desantis as she is a therapist for men. And she’s a woman so her view and understanding of men is uni...
When there’s shame around money — a Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who has shame around their financial situation, this episode is for you! In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast...
Sophie Alexandra Wurr — Understanding the cosmic masculine
02 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As the nature of relationship rapidly changes and people begin looking for alternate ways of constructing their relational and sexual lives, teachers ...
On my father’s passing with Traver Boehm
26 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On Sunday July 7th at 9:30 in the morning, my father passed. I was there with my Mom, holding his hand as he took his final breaths. While this is a v...
Blake Chalfant — the failed user manual given to young men.
19 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you are under 30 you need to listen to this episode. If you know a man under 30, you also need to listen to this! Blake Chalfant is already a force...
When Nice Guy patterns lead to unhealthy boundaries — LIVE Coaching Call.
12 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone with loose boundaries, this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Ki...
Top 5 — GS Youngblood — The masculine in relationship.
05 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s be honest — it’s challenging to be in relationship these days, and that’s because there’s so much conflicting information out there. M...
Three stages of sex and relationship with Traver Boehm
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I believe there are three levels or stages of relationship you can engage in: — Extractive & Transactional — Character & Role Playing — ...
Elise Micheals — Men, Abusive Relationships, & Christ
22 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I sit down with renowned men’s mental health coach, Elise Michaels for the second time on the pod. Elise is a force in the men’s world with ...
How to step into your relationship more powerfully — a LIVE Coaching Call.
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who has stepped into a brand new role — he’s the step...
How to keep your hard earned transformation with Danya River
08 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of our live show UNcivilized UNplugged, you get to sit in with our studio audience as I chat with Danya River on how you can keep all ...
My two best techniques for building an incredible life — with Traver Boehm
01 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Last week I talked about getting your vision board to become your reality and closing the gap between the life you want to be living and the life you ...
Do you need permission to live the life you want to — with Traver Boehm
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In my experience of over twenty years of coaching humans, most of you will get stuck in one place — needing permission. Whether that’s to write yo...
Art, Jiujitsu, and the UNconventional Life with Chris Haueter
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Chris Haueter is one of the dirty dozen — the first 12 non Brazilian, Brazilian Jiujitsu Black Belts. He’s also a philosopher poet, an incredible ...
Developing these attributes will change your life with Traver Boehm
10 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
After coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks,...
LIVE coaching session — Permission to go for it
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week I have something special for you, I’ve recorded a live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates. This episode is for...
How to best support a man on his path — w/ Traver Boehm
27 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or...
LIVE coaching session — Why having poor boundaries makes you angry — with Traver Boehm
20 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates. This episode is for ...
If you’re using anything to escape your life, listen to this — w/ Traver Boehm
13 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I ...
You’re allowed to leave any relationship — with Traver Boehm
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them. Why? Because they’...
The 4B Movement, Passport Bros, and The UNcivilized Relationship
29 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this fiery solo episode I break down The 4B Movement coming out of South Korea, The Passport Bro Movement here in the US, and the wildly needed UNc...
Nickelodeon, P Diddy, and Andrew Huberman — with Traver Boehm
22 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come t...
Nice Guys —why trying to belong is strangling your authenticity with Traver Boehm
15 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — b...
UNcivilized masculinity vs Traditional masculinity with Traver Boehm
08 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him bac...
Francis Weller — Living a soulfully UNcivilized life.
01 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me...
Three massive changes I’ve had from men’s work with Traver Boehm
25 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram: “What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?”...
Where to begin your men’s work journey with Traver Boehm.
18 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can ...
What to do when you struggle finding your purpose with Traver Boehm.
11 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose. Knowing why you’re here and what you...
Failure to Launch
04 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who g...
Advanced Concepts — Space holding vs Selfishness
26 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is ...
Duey Freeman — What men fear most is being afraid.
19 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s readin...
Jeremy Allen — At the root of all grief is relationship
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh? We talk a lot about ...
Powerful advice for Nice Guys and Cool Girls
05 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I tackle one of my favorite topics — being a Nice Guy (or Cool Girl). Since this is my background and our most popular course, I’m...
49 Days In The Pitch Dark
29 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I sit down with Lama Justin von Bujdoss and talk about many things. Namely, his experience in a 49 day dark retreat, his time working ...
There are no missteps.
22 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
One of the pains so many people experience is from looking back on their lives and thinking they wasted time with a particular chapter. I hear this in...
Ralek Gracie — From Jiujitsu royalty to filmmaking mastery
15 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is powerful. In it I get to sit down with the great Ralek Gracie. Born into Jiujitsu royalty Ralek has spent his life on the mat, in the ...
Head, Heart, Whoopsie
08 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hey UNcivilized Fam, So many men who get themselves into Men’s Work fall into this early trap. Please give this short solo episode a listen on how y...
2024 The sacred path of power — a personal invitation.
01 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Good day and welcome to 2024. In this raw yearly opener, I invite you to join me and all of us at UNcivilized to walk along side of us in a new way. A...
10 Things Every UNcivilized Man Should Be Able To Do
25 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A Christmas episode for you! Whether you’re taking a break from family or today is a hard day for you, here is an episode to lighten your heart and ...
The UNcivilized Ethos — A Quick Breakdown
18 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The UNcivilized Ethos is the core of the movement and a tool thousands of men and women all over the globe tap into and use for their success and to g...
An UNcivilized Man is Raw, Real, & Relational
11 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A few months ago I was at breakfast with the great Duey Freeman, chewing on some bacon and talking about the future of the Nation. He asked me a milli...
What to do when you find yourself lost in life
04 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It happens. It happens to all of us. In fact it’s happened to me a few times in the past two years as well — that terrible feeling of being lost i...
Fierce isn’t aggressive.
27 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Men, there’s a big misconception out there that ferocity and passion are aggressive if they’re displayed by men. Fierceness is a key ingredient to...
How to NOT gain 15 lbs over the holidays.
20 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Parties, cocktails, your aunt’s famous apple pie…it often feels like the holidays stack the deck against your fitness and health goals. For a lot ...
You Are The Movement
13 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Howdy folks, In this short but hard hitting episode I invite you into YOUR UNcivilized life. I break down the massive workshop we held last weekend, g...
The two steps to glory.
06 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this short solo episode I break down the two steps you can start to take immediately to live an UNcivilized life — ie. THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS. I...
The Darkness - Part 2
30 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why do people fear darkness? The answer lies in its uncontrollability. Darkness stirs up the deepest corners of our minds, like a blank canvas for our...
The Darkness - Part 1
23 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Just imagine, 28 days in total darkness – now that's something wild, right? Well, get ready to hear a wild journey through an interview. In ...
Let’s pop the Guru fantasy.
16 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Howdy folks. In this short solo episode I talk about one of the blocks many people have when it comes to social media and the self development space —...
How'd Traver Get UNcivilized? - Staff Interview with Erin
09 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's the third and final week for my team to interview me. This week it's Erin, lovingly referred to as the Director of Traver (we'll expl...
Digging Deep into Traver's Brain - Staff Interview with Malina
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's week two for the Team at UNcivilized to interview me! This week it's Malina, our Director of Operations, and let's just say she isn&...