How can I tell my mom I don't want her to stay with me after the baby is born?
And ultimately, like... what you need to do is just like sit mom down and say, Hey mom, I'm very excited. You're very excited. I'm just going to make, you know, your, let's say your husband's name is Ben, you know, Ben and I were just, this is what we want. Like, this is our plan. These are our goals. When we have our child, this is what we want to do.
We'd love you around, but like, I, I need to make sure that you're there to allow us to do what we want as new parents and And if you're willing to respect those boundaries, but we just don't really want to be like fighting with you or like competing with you. But who gets like baby time? If you're willing to be around to help when we need help and kind of get the crumbs, so to speak, like then.
Yeah.
Yeah.
How pushy do you think your mom's going to be on this?
I'm just very nervous because she's been so emotional. Every little thing she cries or she storms out or like I told her, I've had to tell her several times that I don't want her in the room when I'm giving birth. And she like cries. So I'm just like, I don't want to hurt her feelings. And like, I get that it is her grandchild too, but, but I'm just like, yeah, you're in a tough spot.
I mean, your, your mom is making this about you. Like, it's not cool. Like, it's not fair. You're my, you shouldn't have to worry as a pregnant person. You should not have to be stressed at all about other people's feelings, especially as it relates to like how much attention you, Or how much they're being made to be a priority in this birth. I think maybe you play that angle. I don't know.
Like, you know your mom. So it's tough for me to like... other than like pointing out the obvious, like, but maybe you could say, mom, like I'm spending way too much time, mom, worrying about your feelings right now. And it's stressing me out. I want to care about your feelings. You're my mom. I want to see you happy. But like, I have six weeks left here.
It's really important that I'm not stressed out and I am. So I really need you to just be on board with what I want for my child and our child. And we want you to be a part of it. But like, you're not the main character here, mom. Yeah. You know, I don't know. Your mom's giving. Can you have that conversation with your mom?
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