You're at a conference watching a woman on stage, and you are completely swept up by her energy. That magnetism she's commanding is so undeniable, and you think, I'll have what she's having. So you track down the outfit. It arrives, you try it on, and somehow you still don't feel confident. And in that moment, what you thought was outfit envy starts to reveal itself as something else entirely.This is the comparison trap, and it doesn't just show up with clothes. It shows up every time we convince ourselves that if we could just have what she has, our problems would go away. But the women you slightly envy, the ones with that twinge-of-jealousy kind of presence, they didn't get their confidence from their clothes. They got there by doing the inner work. And the outfit was just the cherry on top.In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm talking about why copying someone else's look will never give you what you're actually craving and what's really underneath that desire when you find yourself searching like a maniac for the look that you're convinced will save you. Because the clothes will always fall flat when they're doing work that only the inner foundation can do.2:55 – The "curse" that comparison places on your perception of self-worth5:14 – Why "fake it till you make it" strategies might be hindering your path to true confidence6:40 – Example of how the same piece won’t transfer the same energy to all women who wear it7:43 – How I recently fell into the style comparison trap and what I was really craving9:47 – How trying to “shortcut” with another woman’s outfit shows up in other areas of your life11:39 – Where the real transformation happens (before you ever select the first piece of clothing)14:20 – A recent podcast conversation that highlights what you truly want deep down15:55 – The question to ask yourself when you feel a twinge of jealousy toward someone else’s lookMentioned In Her Outfit Won't Give You Her ConfidenceHow Jessie Spressart Went From Blending In to Being HerselfInspired or Influenced? How to Tell the Difference and Protect Your Personal BrandThe Style Mindset ResetStandout Style Kick-StarterWork With EllieFollow Ellie on Instagram and LinkedInLeave a rating and review

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