Episode Highlights With SamWhy she gave away almost everything she owned and became a nomad for a yearThe reason words matter so much and how to get better about the words we useWhy parents should get the word “careful” out of our vocabularies with our kidsWords that, as parents, we should USE and words we should LOSEA simple exercise to shift your words in parentingReplace stop with start in parentingCapable instead of carefulReplace "No" with "Yes you can" as soon asWhy to replace the word should with next time or from now onWe can’t motivate anyone to do better by making them feel badHow to be a pattern interruptReplace “nothing’ and “no way” with “There’s something” and “I wish”Language to use when kids are sad, upset, or madWhen we think we are comforting and we are actually contradicting them and how to paraphrase and understand insteadWhy not to explain when people complain and what to do instead (agree, apologize, and act)Two words that can put grievances and grudges in the pastReplace finding fault with finding solutionsFour words that help us keep our cool even when other people aren’tIn influencing others, example is not the main thing… it is the only thingResources We MentionTalking on Eggshells: Soft Skills for Hard Conversations by Sam HornTongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by Sam HornSomeday Is Not a Day in the Week: 10 Hacks to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life by Sam HornSam Horn - websiteThe Black Stallion by Walter Farley

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