Have you ever accidentally or knowingly pushed on someone’s boundaries? We all have, so how do we communicate our needs and heal our harm? Let’s talk about queerness, flirting, sex, and accountability in trauma and relationships with writer Clementine Morrigan.1:00 meet your guest5:00 examples of how consent can be confused6:00 queer imposter syndrome10:00 verbal consent doesn’t work for everyone 13:00 i identify a traumatized, nice to meet you16:00 knowing your own triggers is quite helpful20:00 crossing men’s boundaries23:00 drinking, drugs, and consent27:00 taking a pause is necessary and sometimes sexy31:00 how to communicate when you’re tied up?36:00 subs gotta use their safe words when they need ‘em40:00 intent matters and is relevant45:00 kids and modeled consent50:00 penetration isn’t inherent to sex play53:00 sex without penetration is sex58:00 reflections of how we messed up beforeFind your host on ellestanger.comFollow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a monthFind our guest at clementinemorrigan.com

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