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354: Mistakes Were Made

14 Jun 2026

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Chapter 1: What political apologies are discussed in the prologue?

0.031 - 20.263 Mike Danforth

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20.804 - 23.929 Mike Danforth

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Chapter 2: Who is Bob Nelson and what is his connection to cryonics?

26.542 - 52.25 Ira Glass

Okay, this just in. People don't like to admit it when they mess up. It's true for little kids, true for adults, and maybe, especially, true for politicians. There are rare instances where politicians do apologize. You're not ghosts. It's usually the kind of insincere, I-regret-the-error, I-meant-no-harm kind of thing. I remember a classic from the prime minister of Hong Kong years ago.

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After two million people took to the streets to protest how cozy she was with mainland China, As a chief executive, she said, I still have more to learn and to do better to balance diverse interests and listen to people from all walks of life.

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Just imagine for a second your partner or your spouse saying something like that to you, like with that tone, like you would not feel reassured that they were really sorry. Okay, so years ago, I was interviewing this guy about something else completely, and somehow we got into the subject of this whole apology business. And the guy has two daughters. They were both around 13 years old back then.

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And he told me that whenever one of his daughters does something to the other, and he tells them to apologize, you know, as their parent, usually the apology is fake. Just pro forma, fake, the kid version of the politician's non-apology apology.

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106.546 - 122.449 Sam Shaw

And what do you do with that? Because how do you make somebody actually feel sorry for something they don't feel sorry for? I mean, there they are, and you're like, say you're sorry, say it like you mean it. And they don't mean it. They're not going to. They don't yet have the empathy.

123.43 - 141.717 Sam Shaw

Trying to explain to one of them, look, the way your sister feels is they go through life, they share with you, and then when you aren't generous with them... that makes them you know you're trying to explain it like this and you can see the look on their eye like this cold steely look you know like i hear what you're saying i hear your little fable i'm just not buying it you know

142.76 - 154.157 Sam Shaw

And I don't know. They'll do lip service to it. They'll kind of sigh and shrug and sort of, in a sense, allow that perhaps that's the case. And then they take another shot at the apology.

154.477 - 160.466 Ira Glass

But as a parent, don't you feel like, well, okay, if all I'm going to get is lip service, at least I'm going to get the lip service.

160.526 - 169.459 Sam Shaw

At least they recognize a moral code. Even if your heart's not in this, I want to watch you go through the motions. This is what people do when they really are sorry. Right.

Chapter 3: What challenges did Bob face in the cryonics process?

189.069 - 211.577 Ira Glass

And if that's what we're going to get out of our politicians, well, OK, I guess it's not what I want, but I can kind of live with that. Yeah. I just want to jump in and say here, this conversation happened years ago. This was back in 2008. Today's show is a rerun. This was so long ago that we talked about this. The politicians actually still felt obliged to apologize when they screwed up.

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Sometimes anyway. Like back when we recorded this, I remember Barack Obama had just apologized for some remark that he made about small town America. And Hillary Clinton had just apologized for saying she flew into Bosnia under sniper fire. You remember this? It did not happen. It was a different time. Not like today.

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When the president does stuff like, you know, posting a photo of himself as Jesus Christ. Or remember when he posted a video of the Obamas as apes. And lots of people called on him to apologize. But of course, that's the last thing he'd ever do.

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Chapter 4: How did Bob's first cryonics case unfold?

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It was nice when they used to say, I screwed up. Sorry. Even if it was insincere. I don't know. It said that there are things that people just shouldn't do. I agree.

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256.936 - 270.068 Sam Shaw

Well, you know, that's making me – I don't know if you're familiar with all the details of that Bible story about David and Bathsheba, you know. And it's almost this funny modern politics story, right?

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No, I don't know this one.

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271.6 - 290.401 Sam Shaw

Okay, well, so here's King David, powerful king of Israel, and he basically commits adultery in office. He sees a woman that he can have because of his power, who's not his wife, and arranges her to come to the palace and has his way with her. And then the story's going to break, and her husband's going to find out.

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And he, in a very modern way, tries to quell the story, quash it, before it gets out. He has her husband sent to the front lines of battle where he gets killed. He does everything he can to hope that he can just actually hide it. He does not feel sorry about it. And he really digs himself in deep.

307.571 - 333.028 Sam Shaw

And time goes on, and the prophet becomes aware of this, you know, divinely, and comes to confront David on it. And what does he do? He tells him a story. He gets him engaged in this little fable about somebody who has a pet lamb, a poor man with a pet lamb that he loves like a pet, and that a rich man goes and gets that lamb and prepares it for a meal.

333.008 - 354.132 Sam Shaw

Because of his power, the poor man's like a serf who lives on his land. So the rich man's just like, hey, I'm taking that. Yeah, because everything you have is mine. So it's this really awful thing of something that someone else valued very highly was valued very low by the rich man just because of his power. But Nathan's not telling him the story like it's a fable.

354.152 - 370.916 Sam Shaw

He's telling him like this is happening in your kingdom. What are you going to do about it? David gets all enraged on behalf of the victim and says, bring him here. We're going to do justice on him. We're going to see this done right. We're going to bring that rich man here and we're going to punish him to the full extent of the law. And so David is like demanding justice for the perpetrator.

371.297 - 395.771 Sam Shaw

And the prophet looks at him and says, you are the man. And that does it. Then David really gets it and he comes apart, you know, and he has a very genuine apology and repentance. I mean, but he does really end up paying for it. And he's a much better king afterward. I wonder if you could sit down with politicians today like that. I don't know. You'd have to do something like that maybe.

Chapter 5: What mistakes did Bob make with subsequent cryonics cases?

484.715 - 500.891 Bob Nelson

It was against this backdrop of high-flying optimism that a Michigan college professor named Robert Ettinger wrote a book posing a simple question. What if death itself was just another disease, generally fatal but not necessarily incurable? His theory went like this.

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500.951 - 522.127 Bob Nelson

If you could freeze somebody at the exact moment of clinical death, maybe, just maybe, in 50 years or 100 years or 1,000, the doctors of the future could bring him back to life. This was cryonics, or cryonic suspension. And groups of enthusiasts began to spring up here and there, which is how Bob Nelson got involved.

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I was on the freeway in a traffic jam, very common here in California, and I came on the radio that there was going to be the first meeting of the suspended animation group at Helen Klein's house. And I remember going there thinking, I'm probably not going to be allowed in. because I'm not a scientist, you know, but at least I'll get to see some of the scientists.

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I went in, I was allowed in, and I came out and voted president.

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556.332 - 573.548 Bob Nelson

Bob had no medical or scientific training whatsoever, hadn't even finished high school. He was a 30-year-old TV repairman with a wife and three kids. But he was charming, the kind of charm where you like him because he lets you know in a hundred ways that he likes you. After a few hours with him, he's hugging you goodbye.

573.588 - 584.618 Bob Nelson

And Bob sincerely believed that cryonics was going to save millions of lives, and that belief was infectious. He did some press, local TV and radio. Turned out he was a really good salesman.

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And it did. It took off like a cyclone. It was stunning. I remember once going into a restaurant, and I was at the urinal, and I overheard two guys talking, saying, you know who that is? That's the guy that freezes people. And the other guy said, why does he do that?

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And I thought, it's just bizarre to be in that situation where you're famous for something that you don't know quite how it happened, you know?

615.007 - 631.834 Bob Nelson

The members of Bob's group weren't experts. They were just fans of an idea. As you'd expect, many were older people, some of them sick and thinking about their own deaths. They set up a nonprofit, the Cryonic Society of California, and before long they drafted a lineup of scientific advisors.

Chapter 6: How did Bob's decisions impact the families involved?

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It was all just really peculiar.

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804.952 - 827.554 Bob Nelson

One challenge with cryonics is that the freezing process itself can do a lot of damage to the body. Living cells are full of water, and when water freezes, it expands, like a house in winter where the pipes burst. To minimize the damage, Bob and his team replaced the blood with special chemicals, a process called perfusion. Meanwhile, they packed ice around the head and body. A lot of ice.

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828.736 - 848.501 Bob Nelson

The goal was to get Murray into a giant stainless steel container, cooled by liquid nitrogen. A cryonics buff in Arizona had started building capsules for exactly this purpose. That's where Dr. Bedford ended up, sent there by his son after the first freezing. But it wasn't clear where to send Marie. The Cryonics Society had no place to keep a frozen body.

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849.524 - 871.679 Bob Nelson

For all they knew, centuries might pass before she could be thawed out and brought back to life. Which is to say, they needed someplace really permanent. That was going to cost a lot of money. Marie Sweet's husband managed to scrape together a few hundred dollars. That's it. And the society was broke. What the society did have was a lot of enthusiastic members, all of them hoping to be suspended.

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872.66 - 877.487 Bob Nelson

Bob figured he'd let them decide whether to keep Marie frozen. It wasn't a very tough room.

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They all said, yeah, yeah, go ahead, Bob. Yeah, go ahead. Oh, OK. So, you know, I should have said, well, is anybody going to help here? Or, you know, is it just me? But it turned out it was just me. And then it got to the point where I began to realize that this was me. I had the power, the decision.

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to say, okay, we're going to give up on Marie, which we should have done in hindsight, you know. But I kept thinking that it's going to work. So it just seemed that it was worth going just a little bit further. I never intended with Marie Sweet to forever keep her in preservation at my own expense. No. I just felt for a while to see what happened next.

933.978 - 947.381 Bob Nelson

This very reasonable position led Bob into a lot of very unreasonable decisions over the next few years. Decisions he's still explaining decades later. And what happened next is that another member of the society died.

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Now, Helen Klein, let me preface by saying, was for me very special. This was the lady that introduced me to the concept of cryonics. She was the one that had that first meeting. She just somehow put a spell on me. I just loved her.

Chapter 7: What legal repercussions did Bob face for his actions?

1061.292 - 1080.825 Bob Nelson

Every week or so, he put hundreds of pounds of dry ice in the backseat of his little vintage Porsche and drove two hours from Woodland Hills to the mortuary in Buena Park, where the bodies were stored. Not in some state-of-the-art permanent facility, remember. Here's Joe Clockether, the mortician at the facility. It was in the garage that I had them.

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So I have to say the storage facility, because when you say storage facility, you think of something much neater. But it was the garage, but it didn't make any difference really, except that, oh, you kept them in a garage. You know, that doesn't sound good. But yeah, I was anxious to get them out of here. Bob, come on, let's, you know... I got to use my garage. I got things I want to do.

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You know, I don't want to keep doing this here. And I don't want to play around with the health department. See, there's a term, temporary storage. They don't really clarify what temporary means, but you or I know temporary doesn't mean like forever. temporary, you know, not, you know, something should be down the road.

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1124.897 - 1140.008 Bob Nelson

You should have something, kind of a date. It was at this point, with Bob dodging Joe Clockheather and Joe Clockheather dodging the health department, that a third member of the society died unexpectedly. Russ Stanley, a man in a position to solve all of Bob's problems.

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Russ Stanley used to call me at home every night and drive me nuts on the telephone for an hour, sometimes two hours. I couldn't get rid of him, telling me about every little thing that happened everywhere in the country about cryonics. To him, there was nothing else in life but cryonics, and assuring me always that when he died, the society would be in good shape.

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Russ used to always say, I'm loaded. I own my own house. So I expected him to leave a couple hundred thousand dollars or something.

1176.704 - 1178.466 Bob Nelson

But had he left that much money?

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He left his money to his next-door neighbor, who was his ex-lover, a Mr. Coco. Mr. Coco hated cryonics. So he called me about three or four days after we had Russ in drug. We put him in the container, too. So now we get three people in this dry ice container. It was big. I couldn't put any more in there. But I figured, well, this was going to save the day.

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But Mr. Coco said, Russ Stanley directed me to give the Cryonics Society $5,000 now and $5,000 in three months.

Chapter 8: What reflections does Bob have on his cryonics journey?

1351.683 - 1353.286 Bob Nelson

What's the risk?

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Well, I didn't think it was necessary to burden her. The complex problem of her dad being coupled with other people might have been a problem for her. I don't know. Maybe it wouldn't have been.

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1379.605 - 1397.21 Bob Nelson

The capsule arrived at the mortuary in Buena Park in the spring of 1969, and Bob was there to greet it. A cryonic container is basically a giant thermos, one steel tube inside another, with a vacuum in between. So long as you added liquid nitrogen once every few months, the tank stayed really cold.

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1398.372 - 1417.197 Bob Nelson

These containers weren't designed to be open and shut again, so when the time came to add the extra bodies, Bob had to improvise. He drained the liquid nitrogen and had a welder open the capsule with a blowtorch. They spent most of the night unsealing the tank and arranging the bodies, which they wrapped head to toe in mylar. Joe Klockether was there, too.

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1418.178 - 1421.14 Bob Nelson

Here again, I'm just kind of helping them because it's here.

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You know, I'm curious, too. Anybody would be curious just to see. I was feeling excited and nervous because the question was, would we be able to, you know, to orchestrate the arrangement of these bodies inside that container successfully? Well, first of all, you see how much room was in there. Yeah, just to move because of the configuration of the container.

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Well, it was round, of course, but just to get it to fit right. These people were frozen. And when they were frozen, it could have been maybe an elbow out, so you might have to turn them another way. to get the other one to slide beside him. I mean, it was cramped. Yeah, it was cramped. They had to have gloves on because the body is like steel.

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And, you know, 300 degrees below zero, it's like holding a pot that's 300 degrees above zero. You know, it's just, you can't do it. And it took probably a couple of hours to get them so that everyone was, you know, comfortably arranged together.

1489.334 - 1511.446 Bob Nelson

Then they sealed the container back up. It was that simple. Bob told two confidants about the welder and the four bodies in the tank. Otherwise, he kept it a secret. He'd done what he felt he had to do. And for the moment, what he felt was relief. He'd steered the car back onto the road, secured a working capsule for the four people in his care, and a legal vault to keep it in.

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