Comments or feedback? Send us a text! Dr. George James joins the podcast to discuss his new book I Give Myself Permission: Take Risks. Be Imperfect. Live Boldly and the psychological barriers that keep people stuck even when they have insight into their patterns, trauma, and history. The conversation explores the idea that lasting change is not simply about awareness, but about developing an internal sense of authorization to live differently.Drs. Kelly and James discuss how personal narratives become deeply embedded over time through family systems, attachment experiences, perfectionism, chronic stress, and systemic injustice — and why many people intellectually understand themselves while still feeling emotionally trapped in old roles and identities. The discussion examines how these narratives shape what people believe they are “allowed” to pursue in relationships, work, leadership, and identity development.The episode explores the overlap between narrative therapy, CBT, family systems, and culturally informed approaches to treatment, including how therapists can help clients identify distorted narratives while still validating very real structural barriers and trauma histories. Dr. James also discusses racial trauma, injustice stress, and the importance of balancing empowerment with realism in clinical work.Other themes include:The psychology of perfectionism and self-worthAttachment trauma and high achievementLeadership burnout and “sacrifice syndrome”Mid-life identity shifts and reinventionBehavioral activation, risk-taking, and fear responsesWhy insight alone is often insufficient for changeThe role of self-compassion in identity transformationHow therapists can integrate “permission language” into treatmentDr. George James, PsyD, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, executive coach, and internationally recognized speaker with more than two decades of clinical experience. He is the founder of George Talks and specializes in narrative transformation, leadership development, racial trauma, and family systems work.His book, I Give Myself Permission: Take Risks. Be Imperfect. Live Boldly (New Harbinger Publications, 2026), examines how inherited narratives, chronic stress, perfectionism, and systemic pressures shape identity — and how reclaiming permission can create space for courage, healing, and meaningful change.

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