Trying Not to Care

You're Not Healed, You're Just Not Surrounded By The Thing That Triggers You

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe you’re not actually healed….maybe you’re just isolated with nothing to trigger you Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Hungryroot: get 40...

There’s More to Life Than Doomscrolling: How to ACTUALLY Break Your Phone Addiction

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you find yourself glued to your phone, scrolling social media for hours and wasting the day away… this episode is for you! It’s honestly embar...

Stop Playing Small: The Year You Step into Your Power

12 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

2026 is the year we stop playing it safe and we allow ourselves to take up space and be the person we want to be! 1. Stop walking on eggshells to mak...

HOW TO BUILD YOUR DREAM GIRL MINDSET FOR 2026 - mindset reframes, affirmations, identity shifting

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

THE LAST EPISODE OF 2025 AHHHHHHH!!!!! Of course we're closing out the year with a self improvement episode that's going to get you ready for 2026. In...

WHAT I'M LEAVING IN 2025 - habits, people, and mindsets

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Before we move into a new year and start working on our 2026 goals, it's time to let go of the people and things that don't align with us anymore. By ...

HOLIDAY SOCIAL ANXIETY SURVIVAL GUIDE - going back to your hometown, mastering small talk, navigating conversations about your body, and overstimulating environments

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

As much as I love the holiday season, it can be extremely overwhelming - especially if you struggle with social anxiety. If you're someone who has a h...

DECEMBER MEDIA OF THE MONTH ☃️podcast recs, holiday movies, favorite creators, and music you MUST listen to!!!

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Everything I'm currently loving digitally! My recommendations for holiday movies, binge worthy shows, music, podcast episodes and favorite online crea...

WHY YOU AREN'T LEARNING FROM YOUR MISTAKES

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy December!!!! As the year come to an end, a lot of us may be realizing we’re not exactly where we thought we’d be. Maybe you didn’t hit you...

ROMANTICIZING WINTER ❄️ how to enjoy the holiday season and love your life

24 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's that time of year again...shorter days, colder nights, and seasonal depression looming around the corner. But it doesn't have to ruin your whole ...

DATING DURING THE HOLIDAYS: reaching out to your ex, breakups, bringing your bf/gf home, and gift guide - ADVICE SESSION #14

17 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Going through a breakup and dreading the holidays? Missing your ex and considering texting them? Not sure if you should buy your situationship a gift?...

HOW TO DECENTER MEN - reclaiming your power and focusing on yourself

10 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Decentering men doesn't mean you need to be anti-men...it means you being pro-yourself. In this episode, I talk about the implications of making a man...

MAYBE YOU DON'T REALIZE HOW GOOD YOU'RE DOING BECAUSE YOU KEEP RAISING THE BAR

03 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for my overachievers, anxious 20 somethings, and girlies filled with self doubt 💌 Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Graza: Take y...

THIS IS WHY YOU'RE AFRAID OF ABANDONMENT

27 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

"Maybe you have a fear of abandonment because you consistently abandoned yourself to convince others that you're worthy of not being abandoned.” T...

ENEMIES TO LOVERS BUT IT'S WITH MYSELF

20 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Girl wake up....you're literally your own biggest hater. In this episode, I talk about unlearning the self doubt, judgement, and impossible standards ...

OCTOBER MEDIA OF THE MONTH - the BEST halloween movies/shows, music, books, and online creators

13 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

welcome to media of the month!! 👻🦇📚🖤🎵🎃this is going to be a new series (if you like it lol) where I share everything I'm reading, wa...

NEW SEASON, NEW YOU: the art of not caring, internet stalking, how to stop talking badly about other people & more - ADVICE SESSION #13

06 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

ADVICE SESSION #13 🧡 In this episode, I'm answering your questions to help you get through this season as a more kind, unbothered, and grounded ver...

MISERY LOVES COMPANY - they don't see the wrong in their actions because they surround themselves with people who normalize it

29 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever have someone do your dirty...but somehow you're the villain and everyone is cheering for them? This week I’m talking about why people defend to...

YOU'LL NEVER KNOW THIS VERSION OF ME

22 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How amazing is it that you'll never know this version of me... Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Ollie - Take the online quiz and introduce Ollie to...

NIGHT TIME ROUTINE FOR THE GIRLS WITH ANXIETY AND BAD SLEEP HABITS

15 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

My ideal night time routine to reduce anxiety and get better sleep 🧸🌙 Listen to this episode for tips and tricks on how to romanticize your nigh...

OVERCOMING YOUR EGO AND HOW TO BE A MORE ENJOYABLE PERSON

08 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

it's me.....hi......I'm the problem....it's me 😮‍💨 In this episode, we're talking about why needing to be right, acting superior, taking thing...

HOW TO BE HOT, HAPPY, AND SUCCESSFUL THIS FALL

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy fall to those who celebrate 😌 In this episode, I share my tips on how to transition from summer to fall and becoming the happiest, healthiest...

START THE WEEK OFF RIGHT (feel good episode) - affirmations, journal prompts, comfort movies/shows, playlists, and making a hope box

25 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re getting out of a funk and being intentional this week! This episode is filled with some good stuff to make you feel good :) What to expect ⭐...

TIME PASSING IS NOT AN APOLOGY

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Next time you find yourself missing someone, ask yourself, "Do I actually miss this person, or did I just forget why we stopped talking?" There have b...

YOU'VE CHANGED....yeah I'd hope so

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

"You've changed" ok yea.....that's the point. People love to throw "you've changed" around as if it's an insult, when in reality, it's the highest com...

FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS - why community is so important, how to make genuine friendships, and being the friend you want to have

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Friendships between women are one of the most special and magical gifts. In today's episode, I talk about the bond women have and why having female fr...

MANIFESTATION FOR BEGINNERS - getting what you want doesn’t have to be hard

28 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Getting what you want doesn't have to be so hard. I'm breaking down how manifestation really works and how you can start calling in the things that yo...

THREE YEAR HEALING RULE - processing, adjusting, living (don't rush the healing process)

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When you think you're not healing fast enough, remember the 3 year rule. It takes 1 year to process. It takes 1 year to adjust. It takes 1 year to s...

DECENTER WHAT YOU DON'T WANT - what you speak about, you bring about

14 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Lately, I’ve been noticing how much time I spend talking about the things I don’t want, the people I don’t like, the situations I don’t want t...

THE ART OF DETACHMENT

07 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I BOUGHT A HOUSE and the story of how it all happened taught me a huge lesson about letting go of control. In this episode, I talk about learning how ...

REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GO FOR IT

23 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

reasons you should go for it 1. life is too short 2. regret hurts more than failure 3. who cares what people think? 4. someone needs what you have...

ACCEPTING WHO YOU ARE

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Comparison is the thief of joy. I had a really difficult time accepting and loving myself when I was always worrying about what others thought of m...

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR PEACE

09 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A GUIDE ON HOW TO PROTECT YOUR PEACE. If it feels like nothing ever goes your way, or you've just been in a bad headspace/feeling drained lately...thi...

HOT GIRL SUMMER GLOW UP: hair and skincare advice, glowing up naturally on a budget, FOMO, bikini confidence, and food guilt - ADVICE SESSION #12

02 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

LISTEN FOR ADVICE ON HOW TO GLOW UP THIS SUMMER Questions in this advice session: - What are some easy things that I can do right now to feel better...

DID YOU BURN A BRIDGE OR CLEAR A PATH?

26 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Loss is hard...especially when you're someone who's a little too familiar with it. Whether it's another friendship breakup, another relationship that ...

A REALISTIC GUIDE TO CONFIDENCE: how to ACTUALLY be confident

19 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How to ACTUALLY be confident!!! not just fake it!!!! In this episode, I’m giving you all my tips on how to stop doubting yourself and own who you ar...

THINGS WON'T WORK UNLESS YOU DO

12 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Life doesn’t change by playing it safe. In this episode, I break down why the biggest breakthroughs come from the boldest moves and how the fear of ...

STOP EXPECTING YOU FROM OTHERS

05 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You don't understand the behavior because you would never do it. In today's episode, I dive into the emotional toll of trying to understand people wh...

LACKING CREATIVITY AND INSPIRATION - how to get inspired and enjoy the creative process

28 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you're a podcaster, content creator, artist, or just someone feeling stuck, this episode's for you. I'm diving into the mindset traps that kee...

SKINNYTOK AND TOXIC DIET CULTURE

14 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Skinnytok is a side of TikTok where users talk about weight loss and give dieting advice. Although skinnytok may be helpful for some, it has caused ex...

FOR THE THOUGHT DAUGHTERS: how to stop caring what people think, comparison and setting boundaries - ADVICE SESSION #11

07 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

ADVICE FOR OVER THINKERS AND PEOPLE PLEASERS!!! this episode covers: - being okay with being disliked - how to not let something bother you - emb...

BIRTHDAY BLUES - why does my birthday make me sad?

31 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you cry every single year on your birthday...this episode is for you 🧁 In today's episode, I talk about - birthday expectations vs the actual ...

THE GRASS IS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I talk about "shiny object syndrome" and how people often look for the next best thing. People become so focused on what others ha...

SPRING RESET: reinventing yourself and how to glow up mentally and physically

17 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

IT’S TIME TO GLOW UP. This past winter hit me HARD but with spring officially here, I felt inspired to talk about going from surviving the winter to...

THE REALITY OF HEALING

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Healing is hard…so let’s talk about it! In today's episode, I talk about ❤️‍🩹Feeling like you’re taking too long to heal ❤️‍🩹...

IF YOU WANTED TO YOU WOULD

03 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We've all heard the quote, "If they wanted to, they would." You might have even used that quote to determine how someone feels about you. In today's e...

A FRIEND TO ALL IS A FRIEND TO NONE

24 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever opened up to a friend about a situation where someone deeply hurt or betrayed you, just to have that friend turn their back on you and b...

LET GO OR BE DRAGGED - letting go of what no longer serves you

17 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re stuck in a situation that you’re unhappy in or you want to make a change but you’re scared, this episode is a reminder that NOTHING HA...

"Do They Like Me?" DO YOU LIKE THEM?

10 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of worrying if someone likes you, ask yourself, “do I like them?” Are they kind? Are they funny? Are they honest? Do they meet your expect...

I’m Amazing, but I’m Not for Everybody

27 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I started this podcast in 2022 when I decided to start taking social media seriously. I was so afraid of what everyone thought of me (hence why I call...

The Power of Dream Interpretation with Natasha Dreamseer

20 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

THE FIRST GUEST EPISODE OF 2025! Welcome Natasha to Trying Not to Care! In today's episode, we delve into the fascinating world of dreams, exploring...

2025 INS AND OUTS

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

WE’RE SO BACK!!!! the first episode of 2025!!!! let’s talk about my ins and outs for the new year. IN ❤️ intentional screen time ❤️ r...

2025 Mindset - Important Things to Remember in the New Year

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S THE LAST EPISODE OF 2024!!!!!!!! So grateful to have spent this year with all of you. 🥂 Here are a few lessons I learned ...

What I Learned in 2024

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Before the year ends, let's talk about a few things I learned in 2024.  Every emotion has a hidden meaning The people who say you can’t or won’...

Holiday Reminders

16 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Holiday reminders for anyone who is struggling during the holiday season🫶🏻 We talk about 💌 Don’t compare yourself to others and how their ...

I'M ENGAGED

09 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

IN MY FIANCÉE ERA!!!!!!!!!! HOW IS THIS REAL LIFE?!?!?! Let's talk proposal details, the story of how Josh and I started dating, dating advice, and w...

Building a Dopamine Menu

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE NEXT TIME YOU’RE IN A FUNK AND NEED A LITTLE BOOST. In today’s episode, I share how to make a dopamine menu as well as what...

To Be Cringe Is to Be Free

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You're not cringey!!!! You just care way too much about what people think of you!!!! SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not t...

Things Get Messy Before They Get Better

18 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been feeling like things are falling apart and you have no idea what you’re doing…listen to this episode.  SOCIALS AND LINKS Inst...

The Answer to Your Question About Someone Is in Their Actions

11 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week has been a difficult one for me, as I’m sure it was for many of you. I went through 10 stages of grief, and I’m still crashing out as I ...

Keeping Quiet Keeps the Peace

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I was taught that keeping quiet kept the peace until I realized whose peace is it keeping? After voicing my opinion in a video last week, I received...

Seasonal Depression, Cuffing Season, Finishing the Year Strong, Food Guilt, Holiday Spending, Skin Breakouts and Fall Fashion Tips - ADVICE SESSION #10

28 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

ADVICE SESSION #10!!!!! ALL THINGS FALL 🍂🌲🧸☕️🧣 In today’s episode, I’m answering your seasonal questions to help you get through t...

It’s Time to Start Checking Yourself

21 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's much easier to point out when someone else makes a mistake or is acting out of character than it is to check yourself. In today's episode, I talk...

Thank You for Leaving My Life!!!!!

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for leaving my life (I never would have walked away on my own)!!!!! In today’s episode, I talk about being grateful that relationships and...

Overthinking Is OUT, Letting Things Be Is IN

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you can’t stop overthinking, listen to this episode.  Last week I went on my first brand trip, and it was INCREDIBLE. The days leading up to t...

Fall Glow Up: A New Season of Life for You

30 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I COULD CRY TEARS OF JOY THAT FALLS FINALLY HERE!!!!! Today's episode is all about glowing up this new season. As the seasons change, so should you! L...

In My Saying No Era

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're a people pleaser, listen to this episode. We are stepping into a new era where we are saying no to other people so we can say yes to ourselv...

Your Direction Is More Important Than Your Speed

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever felt like giving up because things aren’t working out the way you planned, listen to this episode. There’s been so many times whe...

Listen When a Bad Day Hits

09 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This is your reminder that it's only a bad day, NOT A BAD LIFE. If you're feeling down or things just aren't going your way, listen to this episode. I...

What Your Life Feels Like Versus What It Looks Like

02 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It can be tempting to make your life seem much more luxurious and interesting than it actually is. We think if we post videos at a cool party or photo...

Big Sister Advice (Juicy and Unfiltered) - ADVICE SESSION #9

26 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 126 ADVICE SESSION #9! I asked you on Instagram what big sister advice you needed and today I'm answering your questions. QUESTIONS I ANS...

Be the Most Interesting Woman in the Room

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

#125 I used to have a lot of social anxiety and was afraid of how people perceived me. I didn't think I was cool or interesting, and I didn't think p...

I Don’t Want to Be Around What I Had to Heal From

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You don’t have to spend time around people who have hurt you or engage in things that you’re no longer interested in. In today's episode, I talk a...

Girl Therapy and Free Self Care

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Self care doesn't have to cost money. In today's episode, I'm sharing some free self care ideas as well as my girl therapy favorites. If you're lookin...

Breaking to Reinvent Yourself (Hitting Rock Bottom Is a Blessing)

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

At the end of 2021, while I was working at my old job, I was struggling with my mental health, personal issues, and paying bills. I felt so lost in li...

Confusing Control for Love

22 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This one is for all the lover girls that try to see the best in everyone. In today’s episode, I talk about confusing control for love, my past relat...

Romanticizing Your Summer on a Budget

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're having FOMO watching others enjoy their summers in the Hamptons, are unable to afford the trending summer products you see on TikTok, or are...

Fear of Being Perceived: Life Is About Experiencing, Not Being Perceived

08 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF YOU ARE CONSTANTLY WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU. Being a successful content creator has always been a dream of mi...

DO IT FOR HER (Her Being You)

01 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of being motivated to prove others wrong, be motivated to prove yourself right. In today's episode, we're talking about becoming the person yo...

Being the Backup Friend, Moving on After a Friendship Breakup, Being Single and How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex - ADVICE SESSION #8

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

WE’RE BACK WITH THE ADVICE SESSIONS!!! In today’s episode, I’m answering a few of your questions about friendships and relationships. If you’r...

Your Body Isn’t the Problem, Your Mindset Is

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

TW - This episode talks about sensitive topics such as body image, weight and disordered eating. Lately there's been this conversation online where p...

What I Can Control vs What I Can’t

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Listen to this episode next time you’re frustrated over something that’s out of your control. Things don’t always go our way, but just because t...

Summer Favorites and Maintenance Routine

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

HAPPY JUNE!!!! Let's kick this week off with a suuuuuuuper chill episode. Here's my summer favorites and my summer maintenance routine to look and fee...

Moving on Without an Apology

27 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I hope you heal from the things no one ever apologized for. This episode is for anyone who has been hurt by someone and has struggled to move on beca...

Things I'm Letting Go Of

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I try to go into every year with an idea of the things I want to accomplish as well as the person I want to be. With it almost being half way through ...

3 Daily Wins

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

#111 With it being Mental Health Awareness Month and following last week’s episode, we’re talking about 3 daily wins. A lot of my stress and anxi...

Rest Is Productive

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After struggling with burnout, I thought it was only right to come back and speak about how I’ve been feeling as well as the pressure to always do m...

I’m Struggling With Imposter Syndrome

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You might have seen me recently crying on Tiktok over my imposter syndrome. While I was in California, I found myself in a few uncomfortable situation...

Why Girl Friendships Are So Difficult

15 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I am talking about why girls have such a bad reputation when it comes to friendships. I have heard so many people, especially men,...

How to ACTUALLY Be Supportive of Others

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself being jealous and unhappy when others succeed? Listen to this episode. In today’s episode, I talk about why we struggle to be h...

Celebrating Yourself - MY BIRTHDAY EPISODE

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

ARIES RISE!!!!! It’s officially April and my birthday week. With my birthday coming up, I wanted to talk about previous birthdays where I felt under...

Why Are We So Afraid of Aging?

25 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Every year around my birthday, I spiral because I am overly aware of the fact that I am getting older. I used to be so excited for my birthday, and no...

Stop Being Subtle About What You Want

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Stop minimizing what you want out of fear of what others think. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram Tik...

Learning to Become Unbothered

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How to stop being bothered by others actions and perception of you. Why you should to stop taking things so personally. Mikayla's episode that inspi...

Questions to Ask Yourself Next Time You’re in a Funk

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

YOUR GIRL HAS BEEN IN A FUNK. In an attempt to make myself feel better, here are some questions to ask yourself next time you're in a funk. What’s...

Going Back to an Ex, Dealing with Rejection, Being Okay With Being Alone and the Journey to Self Love - ADVICE SESSION #7

26 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

ADVICE SESSION #7!!! This episode covers: Going back to an ex after they left you Being “too sad” or “too much” for people What to do if...

Ways to Say I Love You Without Saying It

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, we're talking about the different ways to say and show your love for someone. I am constantly hearing people say, "if he wante...

10 Steps to Self Care

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about self-care that goes so much deeper than throwing on a face mask or going for a walk. In today's episode, I talk about 10 non...

You Lost Them but You Found Yourself - Getting Over a Breakup and Learning to Love Yourself

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

With February being the month of love, I want to focus the next few episodes on self-love. In today’s episode, I talk about the harm that comes from...

Standing Up for Yourself Doesn’t Make You a Bad Person

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Quick mini vent sesh!!! Today's episode is a reminder that you're allowed to be angry and advocate for yourself when someone disrespects you. Standing...

Why Being Delusional Actually Works

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S BEEN 2 YEARS OF TRYING NOT TO CARE. With it being the 2 year anniversary of this podcast, I'm sharing my story of how hard work a...