We've all been taught to work on our careers, our health, and our personal growth—but when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and sex, many of us assume things should just click with the right person. But what if intimacy is a skill—one that we can develop and refine? In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, to explore how experiential learning can transform the way we approach love, connection, and desire. We break down: - Why intimacy is a skill, not just chemistry—and how to practice it in everyday life - How trauma shapes desire and how to reclaim sexual energy after past wounds - The crucial role of relationship repair in building trust, emotional safety, and deeper passion - The psychology of arousal—how early experiences shape attraction and desire - The surprising link between sexual fulfillment and overall health—from stress reduction to immune function - How breaking free from shame around sex can lead to greater confidence and personal empowerment Plus, Danielle and Celeste share insights from their books—Making Love Real, Coming Together, and Confidence—and details on new Somatica classes launching for Valentine's Day. Check out their website: Somatica Institute Find them on Instagram: @somaticainstitute HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.comFollow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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