It’s not uncommon for compassionate people to feel confused or guilty for not trusting a partner or loved one… even after years of lies and hurtful behavior. In this episode, Molly answers a question from someone being told her lack of trust signifies that she has control issues or a spiritual deficit. Listener Question: “After 8 years of my partner’s repeated lies, he’s recently had a religious experience and claims he will never lie again. The problem is, I still don’t trust him — and now he says my lack of trust is actually a 'control issue' or a spiritual problem. Am I being a terrible partner, or am I right not to trust him?” In this episode, Molly explains: Why demanding trust is a red flag and it needs to be built by actions over time. The difference between bodily wisdom and actual control issues. How setting boundaries supports healthy change for both partners. If you’ve ever been made to feel guilty or like you have a character flaw for not trusting someone whose behavior has been consistently problematic, this episode will bring you clarity! ***** Ask Molly a question at her voicemail box here: https://www.speakpipe.com/AskMolly. Take Molly’s FREE Boundaries Breakthrough mini-course to discover which of the 4 most common relationship traps has you in its grip (and how to break free)! Order Molly's new book: The Great All: A Parable of Hope, New Beginnings, and You. Thanks for listening to We Are the Compassionate Revolution! If you love the show, please help support it (at no cost) so we can reach more compassionate souls: follow or subscribe wherever you listen, rate it five stars, or leave a review. Remember: Love is the way!

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