We Can Do Hard Things
Pet Peeves: What Do Our Biggest Annoyances Say About Us? (Best Of)
Sat, 03 May 2025
1. Glennon explains her “soundaries”—and why a lack of audiorial yield in public places is her biggest peeve. 2. Abby’s struggle, as a bonus parent, adjusting to a kid-filled life with zero personal space and personal property boundaries. 3. Why Amanda is allergic to the word “fine”—and why she’s stopped saying “I didn’t have time. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What are sound boundaries in public spaces?
Chapter 2: How do pet peeves reflect our personalities?
But I think we're just giving humanity like a little too low of a bar to call these pet peeves. I think we should. Lovey would say just do better.
world because they're things like saying no offense right before you say something offensive no oh that's so annoying or after right or after or after right yeah standing too close to people being a close talker uh clipping your nails in public interrupting being late what people who don't pick up after their dog receiving a non-apology uh hold on i gotta go back to the clipping your nails in public that's a thing
It's a thing that people say is a pet peeve of theirs. Any self-grooming in public, people do not.
Who the hell is clipping their nails in public? Okay, so I do think that there's a distinct difference because saying that's my pet peeve, that people give a non-apology, is taking responsibility for something that is actually everyone else's responsibility. Like, that's not a pet peeve. That's just like wisdom, right?
Right. It's just like we're trying to have a civilization here, people. Stop doing these things.
Like we understand it wasn't written down. Like you didn't get a contract that said we, the people in order to form a less disgusting union will not clip our fricking nails in public, but we just thought it was understood. Right. So like dude on the train, sorry, it's just my pet peeve that people don't clip their toenails next to me. Like, no. Do better. Right.
So that's why we're not talking really about those today because we just insist upon a higher standard of the union. But it's the little things that say something more about you that bothers you and other people's behavior.
Okay, so... OK, I can talk about some of my my biggest personal pet peeve category. Do you want me to start? Yeah, I can't wait. Well, I think you know what it is.
I know everything. I know everything. And I know all of these things are relating specifically to me.
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Chapter 3: What annoys us about the use of loud devices in public?
And co-opted my brain. Like now you're giving my brain a job to do that my brain didn't have before. Now I have to figure out, you know, I don't know. Are they going to get through this? Is this a breakup? It's going to happen right now. And I have to. Now I'm. My brain is involved in what you're doing. Yes.
My brain is involved in your business call. And I do just feel like there's something that insults my soul also about it. Like you really don't see anyone else around you. Right. Like the fact that you like on a plane and then the dude is having a, He's using his outside voice to have a business call.
He actually believes this is the most important thing, not to him, but to everyone else in this cabin. There's just something that really. Well, it's like vocal manspreading. It's like you're taking vocal manspreading and then it turns into a hostage situation. And we're all in a hostage situation. And you know what else bothers me?
Is that we all have agreed that we will just all be uncomfortable and annoyed. But we won't interrupt the guy who's interrupting all of us. We won't say to him, dude, are you effing kidding me? We just all have to suffer silently. So my category of pet peeve is sound boundaries, which I'm going to now call sound race.
For however long we have been knowing each other and together and married, this is the thing, right? This is your thing. And so I wonder, and I actually, this is an honest question. This is not like trying to be snarky in any way. Is there any part of this that is your responsibility now? to train your brain to not be interrupted?
I don't know if I can not be interrupted, but I fully believe that my obsession with quiet is a slice of insanity on this earth that I am living on with other people and machines. Yes, I hear you.
I do understand that. But because it's so problematic for you in your life, in almost every public arena, and even in your private life living with me, Is there then a cause to like, let's try and work on maybe not having this thing affect you in such a negative way? Is there a way that we can work on loud noises not being so interruptive to you? in your brain. I wonder.
I would love that. I'm not against progress.
Okay.
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Chapter 4: Why is personal space important in family dynamics?
I also feel like the 90% rule that the I'm a non finisher rule should only apply to tasks that take longer than 30 minutes.
Okay, okay.
I don't feel like a huge closet organization. Great, non-finisher rule. I'm going to leave all this crap around here because I've done my contribution. But the non-finisher rule cannot apply to the 10-minute cleanup after dinner. I just feel like- Oh, actually, no, no.
Here's what we're actually talking about, sister. It is not a 10-minute situation. This is a five-second deal. This is grabbing the sprayer, turning the faucet on, spraying water for five seconds, turning it off and their job is done.
Okay, so finishing, not putting in effort is really pisses you off because you also, I would say another of your pet peeves is- When we're watching the sports.
Oh, don't get me started on people who jog places. Right. You don't ever take a fucking play or moment off. Like ever. To me, that's like character.
When someone is not showing their best hustle, she stands up off the couch, gets very close to the television and makes us watch the person over and over and over again. She rewinds, watch, rewinds. That guy, that guy, that guy. Do you see it? Sissy, what do you think? What is your category? If Abby's no hustle, her pet peeve is no hustle. My pet peeve is no yield.
If you're not yielding auditorially, if you're not yielding on the street, if you're not yielding in spirit, you insult myself.
It's almost like we're opposites.
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