Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction. From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment. Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. Follow Dr Karen Here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxOb Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod -- 00:00 Introduction 1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life 1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter? 3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know 5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit? 7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist? 10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference 15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios 18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations 21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters 27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary) 28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter? 31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size 34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality? 36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common? 37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World? 40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary) 41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed? 45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond 47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad 48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad 49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter? 52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships 1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship 1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary) 1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting 1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life 1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex? 1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure? 1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life 1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships 1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship? 1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship 1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important 1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You? 1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex 1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex 1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad -- Sponsored by: Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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