Send us Fan MailA family fracture can start before you’re even old enough to name it, then follow you for decades like a script you never agreed to read. We sit with the story of Jacob and Esau, not as a distant Bible lesson, but as a painfully current picture of family estrangement, favoritism, deception, and what happens when years of silence stack into missed holidays, missed milestones, and relationships that feel impossible to recover. The question underneath it all is simple and brutal: what do we do with the original wound when we’re still bleeding from it today? I talk about trauma and the nervous system, the way hypervigilance trains us to prepare for danger that hasn’t happened yet, and how those survival skills can quietly sabotage relationships with non-offending family members. We dig into Jacob’s wrestling match and the limp he carries afterward, because healing doesn’t mean we walk away untouched. It often means we tell the truth about who we are, take responsibility for our part, and refuse to let the wound determine what happens next. Then we name a disturbing trend: being proudly “no contact” without acknowledging the generational trauma and relational fallout it can create. I’m not telling you to give an abuser access to you. I am asking whether you built a wall and called it a boundary, or whether you can build a guarded bridge where it’s safe and right. We define peace as the absence of striving, explore forgiveness and reconciliation with guardrails, and offer simple words that can open a door: “Thank you, I love you, I’m sorry, and please forgive me.” If you’re tired of trauma taking a toll on your family relationships, come walk with us. Subscribe, share this with someone who’s living through estrangement, and leave a review so more people can find this conversation.You ARE:SEEN KNOWN HEARD LOVED VALUED

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