What does it really mean when someone says, “I got mine”? Is it selfish, sexy, smug—or something far deeper? In this episode, I unpack the phrase and share a personal story from my own journey of claiming pleasure after years of being taught to prioritize everyone else’s needs first. We’ll explore how gender, consent, selfishness, and social programming all shape our relationship to sexual satisfaction.Why does it feel different when a man unapologetically takes his pleasure versus when a woman does? Can we separate selfishness from sovereignty? And what happens when we stop keeping score in bed and instead embrace abundance, reciprocity, and curiosity?Together, we’ll talk about the “givers” and “takers,” the guilt that so often shadows desire, and how reclaiming the right to say I got mine might be the most liberating act of sexual self-discovery.Plus, I close this episode with a reading from the book Want—a reminder that fantasy, too, belongs to each of us unapologetically.Whether you’re exploring your own identity, in a partnership, or simply curious about the politics of pleasure, this one will leave you thinking.

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