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The Relationship Advice We Keep Coming Back To | Sadie Robertson Huff
25 May 2026
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Chapter 1: What relationship advice can we learn from past episodes?
What's up everybody? Happy Monday. I hope you're having a great start to your week. It's about to get a lot better. We actually have a fun episode for y'all today and it's the best of relationship advice from, you know, the past year or so. And let me tell you, there is so much gold in here. If you are someone who's
Really, I think we all need this because whether you're dating, if you're single, if you're married, wherever you are in life, we're all in relationships. And I think you're going to get some advice today. It's really going to help you. So I pray you're blessed by this and encouraged by today's episode and send it to a friend who you think needs to hear it too.
You said it's like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, Psalm 1. And so if you take a picture of a tree and then you come back a week later and you take a picture of the tree, those two pictures are going to look almost identical.
But if you take a picture of a tree and then you come back five years later or ten years later and you take a picture of the same tree, you're going to see like, whoa, massive change. And so there's big change happening slowly.
Chapter 2: How can we identify red flags in relationships?
Yeah. And, you know, our relationship with the Lord is like this too. It's like we just have to make sure we're faced the right direction. And you're making these small deposits that ebb and flow in seasons. It's like I can show you somebody who's newly engaged or maybe even newly married.
And they're leaning over the table for two at the restaurant, you know, gazing each other's eyes and just laughing. And you're like, okay, they love each other. But then I could show you an 80-year-old couple who's been married for 55 years. And, you know, one of them is losing their memory or they have to have some sort of medical care or attention. And I said, who loves each other more?
You might be tempted. It may look like the newly married couple loves each other more, but it's the feelings, the emotions. What happened with that 80-year-old couple is some of those feelings and emotions have evolved to something much deeper with way deeper roots where it's like, hey, we are truly ride or die. We're in this for the long haul. Everybody wants that, but they don't necessarily...
Chapter 3: What role do boundaries play in healthy relationships?
You have to realize there were lots of off ramps they didn't take to get there. Same is true for God. Like as we're on this spiritual journey, there will be just countless off ramps where the enemy's trying to take us out or discourage us or cause us to despair. But as you keep moving, being faced the right direction, as you keep holding fast to the truth that you know,
then you realize that's where those roots go even deeper, even deeper, even deeper, even deeper, so that you can stand the test of time. You can stand the storms. You're in it to win it. Don't... Be alone. I mean, I'm not trying to be a Pharisee here. This is not, I can't chapter and verse that. But if you're looking for, you're like, hey, I really want healthy boundaries, like stay in groups.
I mean, every single time I'm counseling someone who is distraught because they crossed lines they didn't want to cross. It's they were, hey, we were laying down watching a rom-com. You know, it was just the two of us.
Chapter 4: How does anxiety affect relationships and what can be done?
We went to his apartment. The other healthy boundary is I would say avoid alcohol like the plague in college and dating. I'm not a never, never, ever, ever, you know, drink guy. I am a never, ever, ever drink underage guy. And I would not at all. I would just be really wise in dating, like as a meaning you're not married. It's just not going to go well for you.
So much of ministry is pattern recognition. And I just see these same choices leading to the same outcomes over and over and over and over again. And so if you're like, hey, I don't want relationship trauma. I don't want this to go well. I don't want to make decisions that I'm going to regret. Then I would say, man, stay in groups. Like college is an amazing time.
to hang out with, with groups of people and make memories and look back on.
Chapter 5: What does it mean to date with wisdom and wait with hope?
And you're just like, man, this, those are, we went on that mission trip. We served in this way. We had this church deal. We laughed until we cried. My stomach hurt the next day. I laughed so hard. All of that happens in groups of people.
And you can really, you know, you can, you can observe someone well and get to know them well in the way that they interact with other people to know if this is going to be a suitable spouse for me. So that's what I would, that's the easiest, like, Boundary
Is it wrong to date someone who says they believe in God, but doesn't live it out?
Yeah. Jesus said, you'll know them by their fruits. Like here's my, my soapbox on this is be a strong follower of Jesus Christ to find a strong follower of Jesus Christ. Like it really is that simple.
Chapter 6: How can faith be central to building strong relationships?
Charm is deceitful. Beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31 30. I know you have all these preferences. Like you want them to be tall, short, you know, look a certain way, have these certain hobbies, both guys and girls goes both ways. I'm just telling you, uh, You know, I just was in the hospital for 16 days. And, you know, be vulnerable.
Can't be vulnerable. I don't know. Y'all can edit it out later if you want. But it's like, I'm in there and, you know, I haven't had a bowel movement in days. And so I go to the bathroom and Monica's in the other room praying for a bowel movement. And I'm in that bathroom and I'm thinking...
like I nailed this, like, Lord, you're so, and I did so many things wrong, but your grace has overwhelmed the situation that my amazing wife, and I walk out of the bathroom and she's like, you know, any luck?
Chapter 7: What are the signs that someone is truly 'The One'?
And I give her the thumbs up and she falls to her knees and begins to praise God. And I'm like, nobody, no 22 year old knows this is what marriage is like. This is what marriage is. You think it's the date and the like, oh, you know, the roses and the whatever you think it's that. But it really is these moments and you don't want to the guys that say you don't want a trophy wife.
You want someone to go to war with. And, and, and to the ladies, it's like, I know you want the six figure doctor who's, you know, tall, dark and handsome or whatever. It's like, no, you, you want somebody who's going to make you love God more. And because we're going to die soon and we're going to be with God forever and ever and ever and ever.
And marriage simply becomes this metaphor of how Christ loved the church. And is there marriage in heaven? Like, no, other than we're all, the church is married to the bridegroom of Jesus Christ. Like that's the only marriage in heaven is us, the church, being married to Christ. And marriage is teaching us about that relationship
Chapter 8: How can couples maintain a Jesus-centered relationship?
So that's where you want to get it right. And Hollywood like has duped us, man. Like we've totally been lied to. And people are getting married later. They're getting married less and marriages aren't lasting. And I just want to raise my hand and say we've got to do something different.
And so don't learn what to look for in marriage from Hollywood who has the highest divorce rates of anywhere on the planet. It's like you're right, like arranged marriages. That's the biblical way. Those tend to have the lowest divorce rates. There's certainly all kinds of issues with that in like Hinduism and in other places where there for sure is can be hidden abuse and things of that nature.
But what the arranged marriage and according to the scripture is when your friends, families and the church are saying, hey, this makes sense. Yeah. And you're not like, oh, but do I like him? You know, and I'm not saying people are like, oh, you don't. So I don't have to like him. I'm like, listen, there's a place for your preferences. There's a place for chemistry.
There's a place for physical attraction. It's just not first place.
Yeah, that's so good. That is so good. That is really awesome. I love that. How do I know the difference between red flags and just imperfections? Because I think sometimes it's like, oh, well, he's, but it's actually, no, it's a red flag. What's just a preference? Yeah, like what do you convince yourself of that's an imperfection, but it's actually a red flag.
Yeah, I want to be careful how I answer this because there are a few nuanced exceptions to what I'm about to say. But almost everyone that has made a really terrible relationship decision is, like everyone around them was jumping up and down, waving their arms saying, Hey, this is the, he's not good for you. He's not good for you.
And they were like, and they justified it in their minds are like, well, you know, they just don't understand. And every now and then, you know, people are like, hey, my parents don't like him because he's a Christian because my family and I'm like, that's different.
Yeah.
That so that one very nuanced example is different. But a lot of times it's like, but I love him. And they're like, hey, I just we see some things we have concerns. Love is blind. Like it literally is blinding. It's like taking a compass away.
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