203 | Why Successful Women Struggle to Make Decisions and How to Trust Yourself Again
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Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design
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Why do successful women feel afraid of the consequences of their decisions?
Welcome back to your money, your roles. Today we are talking about something that I think every business owner, founder, experiences that's making decisions. And more specifically, why so many smart, beautiful, capable women struggle with making them. Because in my experience, most people aren't actually afraid of making the wrong decision. They're afraid of what happens when they do, and they also are afraid of how they're going to treat themselves. So let's dive in. I think a lot of us grew up as really smart, straight A students. At least that's has been my experience with the women that I have worked with and, you know, the A's in school and all of this stuff of like doing it, trying to do it perfectly and not get it right.
And we look at making these decisions. We've taken how we have been in school and we approach decisions like we're looking for certainty. We want to find the perfect answer. We want the guaranteed outcome, the sign or the proof or the validation. And leadership and owning your business, it doesn't work that way. The future is unknown. You can gather data, you can seek wisdom, right? You can do your due diligence. But at the end of the day, what I always say, like the buck stops with you. Like you've got to make the decision. You have to get information and data from the decision. You have to feel into it and do it and then see how it works. And the discomfort that we're so used to feeling. I think is from that place of uncertainty.
It's not like making a decision because you either make it or you don't, right? Or you make this decision or you make that decision. Like there's nothing there. That's the action. It's, but it's like, what is the feelings that it's bringing up within us that's creating the hesitancy in making the decisions? I have an actual post-it on my computer that says, I don't know the outcome. And I'm trusting God and myself, anyways, and I'm moving forward. I think for so many of us, you know, we think that also too, we're putting so much pressure on the decision that we are making versus this is just another step that we're doing and moving forward.
How does perfectionism turn everyday choices into a crisis of certainty?
So many of us attach, I think, who we are, our identity, what we think about of ourselves as a human to the outcomes. And we are so often attached to the outcomes that we are creating. So, you know, we have beliefs around like, oh, if this works, then I've done a good job or I haven't messed up. up or I'm successful or I'm credible or capable. Like insert whatever flavor you use or what your brain tells you that you, you know, when you are wanting to make decisions. And then we have stories around like if it doesn't work. Right. Then we have those stories around like I'm a failure or this isn't going to work or I'm irresponsible or I messed this all up, or I should have known better. Like there's a lot of beating up energy when it comes to if we make a decision and it didn't work out.
And I think for so many of us, we don't allow ourselves to just play and make some decisions. We've heavily put so much into like the money that we're going to. to invest or if we hire this person and it doesn't work out or All of these stories that we have created and because we make it mean so much about us versus we're just a human in a business making a decision and then making another decision, it feels heavy. We have attached our decision making to our identity, to our worthiness, to how we treat ourselves, for how we love ourselves once the decision didn't work out the way that we thought it would. And I want to say here. Here that decisions are just data. That's it. They just provide information.
And I have seen that the owners that are able to make decisions and and not quickly as in like, let's hurry up, let's make decisions, but just the ones that are able to just make a decision, not make it mean anything about them, move on, gather the data, make another decision, just keep moving, are able to grow and to have a business that feels fun because you're not attaching your business about who you are as a human.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
Why do successful women feel afraid of the consequences of their decisions?
0:00–2:07
2
How does perfectionism turn everyday choices into a crisis of certainty?
2:07–4:52
3
What role does childhood conditioning play in our fear of making decisions?
4:52–6:47
4
Why should decisions be seen as data rather than reflections of self‑worth?
6:47–9:45
5
How can we detach our identity from outcomes and still move forward?
9:45–12:28
6
What nervous‑system signals tell us it’s safe to act, and how do we notice them?
12:28–15:12
7
How does trusting yourself first, instead of seeking confidence, change decision‑making?
15:12–16:02
8
What practical questions can we ask to break decision‑fatigue and build self‑trust?
16:02–16:13
Speakers
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