Aaron Doughty

And I found this not only in my relationships and like romantic relationships, but even with family members. I've had times in family members that where I'm like trying to help them and originally helping them meant money, Solving problems using, you know, in forms like that to find out that I look back and I'm like, wow, that wasn't helping at all. That was enabling.

And actually, even though when I took that energy, like took away, like fixing the problems via money and I started just supporting them in a vision of like, you can figure this out. What I realized was that I was allowing them the space to transform, but also I had to get comfortable with being seen as not the good guy, not the saver, not the fixer that comes in.

And actually, even though when I took that energy, like took away, like fixing the problems via money and I started just supporting them in a vision of like, you can figure this out. What I realized was that I was allowing them the space to transform, but also I had to get comfortable with being seen as not the good guy, not the saver, not the fixer that comes in.

And actually, even though when I took that energy, like took away, like fixing the problems via money and I started just supporting them in a vision of like, you can figure this out. What I realized was that I was allowing them the space to transform, but also I had to get comfortable with being seen as not the good guy, not the saver, not the fixer that comes in.

And I think that was the resistance that I had to even ending that pattern earlier on was to be a good family member, to be a good partner meant I'm a good person and a good person fixes, a good person overgives. And what I realized within myself is that for me, I had to shift more into being authentic and helping people to grow in a more helpful way.

And I think that was the resistance that I had to even ending that pattern earlier on was to be a good family member, to be a good partner meant I'm a good person and a good person fixes, a good person overgives. And what I realized within myself is that for me, I had to shift more into being authentic and helping people to grow in a more helpful way.

And I think that was the resistance that I had to even ending that pattern earlier on was to be a good family member, to be a good partner meant I'm a good person and a good person fixes, a good person overgives. And what I realized within myself is that for me, I had to shift more into being authentic and helping people to grow in a more helpful way.

And that meant letting someone go through sometimes some pain to get the lesson. And that space, though, has allowed them to come to their own conclusions and to make the changes in their life that they would not have made if I kept that codependent energy of fixing people's problems or using money to fix.

And that meant letting someone go through sometimes some pain to get the lesson. And that space, though, has allowed them to come to their own conclusions and to make the changes in their life that they would not have made if I kept that codependent energy of fixing people's problems or using money to fix.

And that meant letting someone go through sometimes some pain to get the lesson. And that space, though, has allowed them to come to their own conclusions and to make the changes in their life that they would not have made if I kept that codependent energy of fixing people's problems or using money to fix.

I could totally see how that would apply to kids, especially, who are super moldable and susceptible to all these subconscious cues. From what I've learned about kids, from friends that have kids and things like that, because I don't have kids yet, they are kind of playing out the dynamics of the frame you set.

I could totally see how that would apply to kids, especially, who are super moldable and susceptible to all these subconscious cues. From what I've learned about kids, from friends that have kids and things like that, because I don't have kids yet, they are kind of playing out the dynamics of the frame you set.

I could totally see how that would apply to kids, especially, who are super moldable and susceptible to all these subconscious cues. From what I've learned about kids, from friends that have kids and things like that, because I don't have kids yet, they are kind of playing out the dynamics of the frame you set.

So if you are playing the certain dynamics that we've been talking about, they're just kind of like mirroring that back and then maybe even rebelling in certain ways.

So if you are playing the certain dynamics that we've been talking about, they're just kind of like mirroring that back and then maybe even rebelling in certain ways.

So if you are playing the certain dynamics that we've been talking about, they're just kind of like mirroring that back and then maybe even rebelling in certain ways.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

First off, what I will say is I think sometimes where we get trapped up and where I got trapped up for a long time was a story about blaming certain things from my past that justified why reality was the way that it was. So for me growing up, I had a controlling step-parent in my life where I didn't have much freedom from seven to 17 years old. 17 years old, my dad divorced this person.