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Aaron Doughty

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648 total appearances

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Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

First off, what I will say is I think sometimes where we get trapped up and where I got trapped up for a long time was a story about blaming certain things from my past that justified why reality was the way that it was. So for me growing up, I had a controlling step-parent in my life where I didn't have much freedom from seven to 17 years old. 17 years old, my dad divorced this person.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

First off, what I will say is I think sometimes where we get trapped up and where I got trapped up for a long time was a story about blaming certain things from my past that justified why reality was the way that it was. So for me growing up, I had a controlling step-parent in my life where I didn't have much freedom from seven to 17 years old. 17 years old, my dad divorced this person.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

I then had all this freedom. And almost that freedom was like anxiety because I was so used to every part of my life being controlled, having to earn going to school activities, et cetera. And then all of a sudden I have all this freedom. And what I found happened is my stories when I was a kid was that life's not fair. Things aren't fair. You have to fight for freedom.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

I then had all this freedom. And almost that freedom was like anxiety because I was so used to every part of my life being controlled, having to earn going to school activities, et cetera. And then all of a sudden I have all this freedom. And what I found happened is my stories when I was a kid was that life's not fair. Things aren't fair. You have to fight for freedom.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

I then had all this freedom. And almost that freedom was like anxiety because I was so used to every part of my life being controlled, having to earn going to school activities, et cetera. And then all of a sudden I have all this freedom. And what I found happened is my stories when I was a kid was that life's not fair. Things aren't fair. You have to fight for freedom.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

You have to fight for your power. And there was always some authoritative figure in my life that was trying to control me that I had to fight against and that things weren't fair. Well, subconsciously, growing up after my ex-stepmom left my life, I then had that of a manager at Nordstrom's. I sold women's shoes for years.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

You have to fight for your power. And there was always some authoritative figure in my life that was trying to control me that I had to fight against and that things weren't fair. Well, subconsciously, growing up after my ex-stepmom left my life, I then had that of a manager at Nordstrom's. I sold women's shoes for years.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

You have to fight for your power. And there was always some authoritative figure in my life that was trying to control me that I had to fight against and that things weren't fair. Well, subconsciously, growing up after my ex-stepmom left my life, I then had that of a manager at Nordstrom's. I sold women's shoes for years.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

The manager of that department that was controlling would get away with things. Things weren't fair. No matter who went up to HR, nothing would get done because she was protected by HR. Just like when I was a kid, there was like that protection. There's nothing I could do. And in fact, if I said something, I'd get in more trouble. Here I am at Nordstrom's.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

The manager of that department that was controlling would get away with things. Things weren't fair. No matter who went up to HR, nothing would get done because she was protected by HR. Just like when I was a kid, there was like that protection. There's nothing I could do. And in fact, if I said something, I'd get in more trouble. Here I am at Nordstrom's.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

The manager of that department that was controlling would get away with things. Things weren't fair. No matter who went up to HR, nothing would get done because she was protected by HR. Just like when I was a kid, there was like that protection. There's nothing I could do. And in fact, if I said something, I'd get in more trouble. Here I am at Nordstrom's.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

If I said something, guess what would happen? I'd get in more trouble. I wouldn't get the schedule that I wanted, et cetera. But what happened is she was in my life for a couple of years. And then actually I went through a spiritual awakening in 2012 and I started observing my thoughts and I learned meditation and I started to observe my thoughts.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

If I said something, guess what would happen? I'd get in more trouble. I wouldn't get the schedule that I wanted, et cetera. But what happened is she was in my life for a couple of years. And then actually I went through a spiritual awakening in 2012 and I started observing my thoughts and I learned meditation and I started to observe my thoughts.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

If I said something, guess what would happen? I'd get in more trouble. I wouldn't get the schedule that I wanted, et cetera. But what happened is she was in my life for a couple of years. And then actually I went through a spiritual awakening in 2012 and I started observing my thoughts and I learned meditation and I started to observe my thoughts.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

And the big shift for me was when I started to observe my thoughts rather than react or try to control them. And there was something shifted inside of me within like a week of learning meditation. My whole energy changed. I started feeling more present. I started becoming aware of a lot of the beliefs and the patterns I was living in. And this is in 2011, 2012 when I was selling women's shoes.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

And the big shift for me was when I started to observe my thoughts rather than react or try to control them. And there was something shifted inside of me within like a week of learning meditation. My whole energy changed. I started feeling more present. I started becoming aware of a lot of the beliefs and the patterns I was living in. And this is in 2011, 2012 when I was selling women's shoes.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

And the big shift for me was when I started to observe my thoughts rather than react or try to control them. And there was something shifted inside of me within like a week of learning meditation. My whole energy changed. I started feeling more present. I started becoming aware of a lot of the beliefs and the patterns I was living in. And this is in 2011, 2012 when I was selling women's shoes.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

And what I recognized is that I was like, wow. There are similar patterns in my life now that were in my life when I was a kid. And I started really looking at that. And I had to take responsibility for my viewpoint and my story about reality, that life's not fair. There's always an authority figure that's trying to control you.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

And what I recognized is that I was like, wow. There are similar patterns in my life now that were in my life when I was a kid. And I started really looking at that. And I had to take responsibility for my viewpoint and my story about reality, that life's not fair. There's always an authority figure that's trying to control you.

Healing + Human Potential
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Any Relationship with Aaron Doughty | EP 90

And what I recognized is that I was like, wow. There are similar patterns in my life now that were in my life when I was a kid. And I started really looking at that. And I had to take responsibility for my viewpoint and my story about reality, that life's not fair. There's always an authority figure that's trying to control you.