Abbey's Mom
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177 appearances
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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A lot of people are, and that's kind of why I sometimes get a lot of feedback like, stop talking. You're taking up her time. You're interrupting. injecting for her, but I already can see the struggle. I can already, you know, parents know their kids the best. So for new parents, advocate for them integrating into the world and plan for your own death. Because ultimately, you are going to be gone.
And I speak Abby, but no one else does. So what good is that if I don't help her bridge or translate? You can have your feelings, but get to what that really means for us so that you can be understood.
But Doug, to the end, just tell us what was important about that story.
She just identified with these two stories because I think they go way back to explaining what must be going on inside of her, but she can't get the words out. So that book, Sophia Gets Really, Really Angry, really helped her process her anger in a way that she couldn't verbalize.
oh yeah we I think we have a lot of chips and snacks so whenever we're gonna eat lunch we have plenty of time for eating oh can we go out to lunch and get like we're talking about um kind of you and David and your future plans remember you were talking about your wedding and you said something to me you said when I get married at my wedding we're gonna serve cookies yes and what else what's the main course remember what you said I don't know what you're gonna serve your wedding
I haven't either. Are they only in LA? Do you get them in the grocery store, Abby? No, I don't know. Oh, I think she saw them in the grocery store. We have a chain called Yum Yum Donuts, too.
She said that. But if you ask David, he doesn't know anything about it.
Does that mean I'm going to have to move my room? Because David lives in a condo with his sister. She lives with me. And there was not a rigidity, but the idea of changing everything. And that's really scary. And I said, and I said this to David's mother too, their marriage can look like whatever they want it to look like.
For example, if I were to ever get married, I would recommend that my husband have a house down the street because I'm never sharing my double sinks. That's my space. That's never going to change. But I said it can look like whatever they want it to look like. It doesn't have to be in the traditional sense of what a neurotypical person would make it look like. You can have your place.
He can still have his place. You can still do what you do until you're ready to move in together. And for now, your room is her sanctuary. That is her safe space. That might have to stay intact. So it can be whatever you guys want it to be so that they can make that commitment without having to have it upheaval everything else.
I think in today's world, marriage can look like whatever you want it to look like as long as your heart's in the right place. Exactly.
I think we should talk about you and David, actually. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's stay on topic, okay? Where you were talking about, you know, being a bride and how much you love David. But, you know, it can look like whatever you guys want. You don't have to give up your room. You don't have to move in and lose the space that you're in just yet. It's where your heart is.
Yeah.
That's a nice full day. She does have a very... What we've been working on is that Abby controls her own day, but we must be productive. You know, you can't sit around. And I think that's one of the hardest things is that I taught her, the therapists have taught her how to initiate her own day. And we're still working on that. So she knows. She loves singing.
She sings every day on a pre-recorded class with a teacher. And she now walks the dog on her own, which is actually the hugest deal because this is... Prime Los Angeles, it's very busy streets. For her to be out on the streets, but she knows exactly what to do. She has her phone with her. It's during the day, and she has that on her own, which is very independent.
And that's a push toward the kind of independence I think parents need to be aware of is letting their kids go into the world and do that kind of stuff. She does that. She goes to the gym. She has a gym membership. She's shooting content. And the big part of her day is making her hats. How many hats did you sell in November, December? Do you remember of last year?
Yes. So 100 hats in 60 days. And they're all handmade.
She's really fast. And so what the interesting thing was, Abby went to a vocational high school, graduated, and then I put her in a vocational post high school from 18 to 22. And they do all these different programs. You learn farming skills or bakery skills or cooking skills. And it's just so that you have a bunch of skills. So when she went into the weaving.
She had the skill of weaving, actually on a big loom, and there were scarves, and they were beautiful. But the school didn't teach you all the skills. They only taught you the middle skills, which is it's already threaded, it's already... And they sort of taught you a portion of it. But the teacher came to me and said she was so fast, and she was so good at it. And I was like, we found something.
Like, we found something, and I... I'll sell my house and invest in making her have a business. I'll make this a business. So when they said she was great at it, I said she needs to do advanced weaving so she can learn the beginning stage. And the end stage, it's like when they were cooking, the students weren't allowed to touch the ovens. The students did the mixing.
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