Abbey's Mom
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177 appearances
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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Carolina's sister had autism. That's what it was. And in my own memory, I just... And I felt so bad because I wished... If I'd known, I would have been able to have been more compassionate or talk to her. But I avoided her because I was scared. And I don't want any of my son's friends to do that with her. I sat them down and I told them. So I think parents should be okay with telling people...
when it's obvious there's something going on. I understand if you have the kind of autism that is not presenting, you're what I call neurotypical passing. So there's that. But then I told my son when he wanted to have the end of the year school party, pool party, like the last day of school pool party at our house, I said, you invite every kid in the class or you invite no one.
And I really wanted to be invited to that pool party.
So that's why you weren't invited. Can I tell them about the swimming thing or no? No, because we're just finishing up talking to other parents about kids with differences. The number one thing is when kids are different, be the one that is compassionate and sweet and kind. You don't have to be their best friend, but do not allow bullying. It's never okay to make fun of somebody.
And if you see it happen, either report it to your teacher, because a lot of kids won't report it because they're scared. They're scared that they might be the brunt of it, but they can go to their parents and say, I saw this happen in school today. You know, that kind of stuff, to be the difference. You know, Ben, her brother, grew up in therapy rooms. He's always very compassionate about it.
And if you see that your kid was a bully or did an action, be the parent that calls them out on it. Don't defend your child. Kids make mistakes. Her brother did a thing where he was... had a really close friend in this friend group. It was my son, her brother, that was taking the backpack and kicking it around the schoolyard as a big group. But his lunch would get smushed and he couldn't eat it.
One day, Miles told his dad that my son, Ben, was the one instigating the incident of kicking the thing around, the backpack around, even though they were friends. But on the inside, Miles was feeling less than that.
And when I found that out, I called up the dad and I said, apparently Ben has been doing this because I found out.
I said, we're coming to your house. Have at it. I want you to say anything and everything that you want to Ben. Yeah. No holes barred, please. So we went to the friend's house. So there's kid Miles, the friend who's getting the backpack. He's around the dad, the mom, me, and Ben. And that father just called him out. I sat there. My son was bawling. Got crying because he felt so bad.
Did you think he ever did it again? It was just a typical fifth grade thing, but he never did it again. And that, to me, was me taking responsibility to teach my son a lesson. That even though that he's your friend and you thought it was funny because you were getting the laughs, Miles wasn't getting the laughs. That's where we stopped bullying.
nobody should be the brunt of someone else's joke unless they're okay with it and they say let's do this fun thing that's what I mean like you really it's that kind of responsibility as a parent and then it's also just understanding that you teach your kid compassion we don't jump on the bandwagon I don't care if everyone else is saying something bad about this one we don't jump in
We laugh at everything. I mean, Abby and I took our, and when she was younger, it wasn't the case. It was a lot of work because Abby is rocking it now. Yeah. Killing it now, right? Yeah. I'm going to just say this one thing. Five years ago, when we were going to go on a trip and you went to pack your own suitcase, what was the suitcase full of? Stuffed animals. Bingo. Yes.
she literally we were packing she just put all her stuffed animals in it we're going so i would have to pack everything i would have to do every so i'd have to pack for two yeah and so since that time abby's become so much more independent and so much more in her own space of herself and so together we're growing in her differences yeah and embracing them and just saying i mean she stops me in my tracks sometimes and it's funny this is
Thank you so much. I mean, there were times when she was younger and this all went down. If I told you the other part of the story, like single mother, there was a chunk of time where I didn't have any income. So I was working a minimum wage job when she was little. And that didn't even cut anything. You know what I mean? There was that and there was just...
the being a detective and the interventions. And then I really saw myself as a relationship person. Like I'm old school, like traditional, very much so. And I realized I couldn't, I had to make that choice of either being, putting myself and my purpose with the relationship before her needs. And I just couldn't do it. It had to be her and her brother.
And I will be honest though, once I made that choice, and I jumped into it, everything got easier. And I just said, in this lifetime, this is where I am. I'm supposed to be this mother, and I'm not supposed to do the relationship thing in this lifetime.
I mean, seriously, I'm like... Oh my God, Abby, can I go with you to this thing? And I'm going, did I die? And I'm in some sort of coma. Right. And I'm just imagining all this because there were days when it feels like that. But besides that stuff and people recognizing her and being so kind and amazing, like the fans are... So great. And she does. She gets recognized all the time.
We've been driving down the street and someone will roll down. I'm just going to say this. I'll never forget this girl in Chico, Chico, California. She rolls down and she goes, holy shit. It's Abby. She's like, what the fuck? I'm seeing Abby right now. And that girl I just fell in love with.
I think I took a picture of her in that moment of the band because I thought it was the funniest thing ever. And I was just so filled with gratitude and love for that girl. And it was so amazing. And so there's that part. In Love on the Spectrum, season one, they're interviewing me, and they said to me, what is your fear for Abby's future? And no one had ever asked me that.
And it's the director asking me that. And I just, at that time, I said, you know, I'm not going to live forever.
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