Adam Lane Smith

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles · Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782 · 18 Jun 2026 podcast

I don't see any other species on the face of the planet that when they go out through their adolescence, they reach a crushing suicidal level of depression.

I've never seen a species on our planet that does that except for ours.

Yes, it's normal to have some turbulence that in the ape world where the adolescents go out and attack trees and play and get weird, but they don't get suicidally depressed like ours do.

But I also see, I think that we have a natural craving for this biochemistry.

We need the bonding.

We are relational beings.

I don't think a human is meant to be alone and isolated.

That's why individual isolation in a prison is one of the most horrible things you can inflict on a human being.

If we were not relational beings, solitary confinement would be fine.

You'd kick your feet up and relax for three weeks, right?

It wouldn't be an issue.

Solitary confinement is one of the most brutal punishments humans can experience because we are relational beings.

We're meant for that.

So when we have correct chemistry through our relationships, the depression just doesn't appear.

We don't see the teens plunging into endless depression and anger and resentment.

Yes, they differentiate from their parents, but they don't hate their parents.

Yes, they have some sibling rivalry, but kids don't hate each other as if they're fighting for survival in the nest over resources that are dwindling.

You don't see families ripped apart when you're building secure systems.

There's a whole pocket of securely attached families that are invisible to the rest of us, and everyone else takes insecure attachment as normal.

This is not how humans are meant to live.

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