Adam Lane Smith

So this is the masculine-feminine dynamic right here playing out.

Men must step up and establish the perimeter, go out and acquire resources and bring them back.

And then the other levels of safety, emotional safety, most men are failing this because we're not disciplining our emotions properly.

We just shut them out, and we're not establishing bonding safety because we don't have secure attachment.

And then you have to have a woman who receives that safety and actually accepts it instead of spitting in your face or seizing control, but then she flows so much better on the inside.

All over TikTok, all of Gen Z, all of the women are saying, get me out of my masculine, get me out of my masculine.

This is what we're looking for, a masculine man who is securely attached so he can provide levels three, emotional safety, and levels four, bonding safety.

You can't provide those without secure attachment.

That's masculine, feminine, and nutshell.

All right.

I wish I had drawn it better.

It's not even about a number.

You can do it while you're broke, which is fascinating.

It's really having a base minimum where there's predictability.

Women can actually survive on almost anything, even in bad situations, as long as there is predictability for them.

Because if there's predictability, their nervous system regulates and they can start predicting what they have and how much allotment they have and what's going to happen next month.

If you make $50,000 one month and $10 the next month and then $50,000 the next month, your wife will not be happy.

She will freak out because there is lack of predictability.

If you make $5,000 every single month the same amount, your wife's nervous system will be calm.

She might gently push on you a little bit and say, hey, we need a little more.