Adam Lane Smith

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Passion Struck with John R. Miles · Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782 · 18 Jun 2026 podcast

And if you think everything you share will be used against you by other people, that's avoidant attachment style.

Now, if you have a blend of those two, it's probably what we call disorganized, meaning cannot be neatly organized into either category.

Disorganized can come in the freeze response of internal focus where I don't share anything and I just lock down and I'm afraid and I have low self-image, but I also am avoidant.

Or the explosive outward version, the loud disorganized.

My feelings are everything.

I am ruled by them, heavy addiction focused usually, and everyone will know how I feel all the time and I will use that to navigate my world.

that's loud, disorganized.

That's how they break down into those different styles right there.

Thank you, Adam lane smith.com.

If you click on resources, there is a free attachment styles quiz in there to find that.

You don't know that you can manage your nervous system and how you feel, so you need other people to help you.

Instead, first, learn to manage your nervous system, but purely through physical techniques, not mental techniques, number one.

And then number two, reclassify the way you make decisions.

Right now, you make decisions based on reducing friction and making other people happy so they don't abandon you.

Instead, start making decisions toward a North Star goal that you have in your life and your principles and ethics.

So principles and ethics and goals, those are the two ways you make decisions.

You calm.

You breathe and say, okay, how does this align with my goals and my ethics?

And then you make that decision and you inform them of how you're making it.

And that's how you build self-respect.

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