Adrian Kaler

Like all that's going to be happening at the same time, just because we have so much RAM available in our brains, right? So we need to put language on that context and, And clarify where I'm coming from in the point of the conversation because we're going to get lost in the content and we're going to lose the context. Does that make sense?

Like all that's going to be happening at the same time, just because we have so much RAM available in our brains, right? So we need to put language on that context and, And clarify where I'm coming from in the point of the conversation because we're going to get lost in the content and we're going to lose the context. Does that make sense?

So there's lots of ways to have it, but you've got to be willing to have it poorly in order to have it well.

So there's lots of ways to have it, but you've got to be willing to have it poorly in order to have it well.

That's what we all want.

That's what we all want.

Yeah. Man, I love your questions.

Yeah. Man, I love your questions.

Sure. Yeah. There's like a couple of main things that come to mind. personally, and then kind of scientifically. And I'm a grace guy, just background for people listening. I was a pastor for several years. I'm a nerd ball. I have a master's in theology. I was just in this conversation in my kitchen with my son, my 10-year-old son.

Sure. Yeah. There's like a couple of main things that come to mind. personally, and then kind of scientifically. And I'm a grace guy, just background for people listening. I was a pastor for several years. I'm a nerd ball. I have a master's in theology. I was just in this conversation in my kitchen with my son, my 10-year-old son.

cause I also have a very storied past, you know, I've got, could rip the paint off these walls with my scandals and my, you know, over drinking and my first marriage and my womanizing and, um, very unfaithful, uh, to my first wife and just a mess. Right. I was doing what a person that's a mess does to deal with the mess internally. Right. So I needed grace. So I'm not like a got it together guy.

cause I also have a very storied past, you know, I've got, could rip the paint off these walls with my scandals and my, you know, over drinking and my first marriage and my womanizing and, um, very unfaithful, uh, to my first wife and just a mess. Right. I was doing what a person that's a mess does to deal with the mess internally. Right. So I needed grace. So I'm not like a got it together guy.

I'm not a got it together coach. And let me tell you the five things because I figured it out. Yes. I do have some pretty helpful ideas that have been helpful to me. You're in good company, my friend. You're in good company. Right on.

I'm not a got it together coach. And let me tell you the five things because I figured it out. Yes. I do have some pretty helpful ideas that have been helpful to me. You're in good company, my friend. You're in good company. Right on.

Anyway, so all that to say, I don't have any shame about that. I feel the potential, whatever, those even saying all that. But it's also I've forgiven myself, right? But as I'm talking to my kids, I walk through this with them because I want them to understand why mom and dad are together anymore. And it's not just all me either, of course.

Anyway, so all that to say, I don't have any shame about that. I feel the potential, whatever, those even saying all that. But it's also I've forgiven myself, right? But as I'm talking to my kids, I walk through this with them because I want them to understand why mom and dad are together anymore. And it's not just all me either, of course.

Um, but I also am never going to throw their mom under the bus, uh, ever, uh, as a commitment. And so anyway, just in the kitchen with my son, I was just saying, Hey man, we're all, we all tell the truth and we all lie. We do. And if you meet someone that says they always tell the truth, run from them because they're lying. That's a lie. Everybody lies.

Um, but I also am never going to throw their mom under the bus, uh, ever, uh, as a commitment. And so anyway, just in the kitchen with my son, I was just saying, Hey man, we're all, we all tell the truth and we all lie. We do. And if you meet someone that says they always tell the truth, run from them because they're lying. That's a lie. Everybody lies.

Not like we're not like we should lie, but our nature is to protect oneself. And so we will lie or at least not tell the whole truth to do that. And we ought not that we will pay the price. Like what the consequences are always coming for every lie. And I've got those stories. And, um, but so we're always this mixed bag of telling the truth and not telling the truth.

Not like we're not like we should lie, but our nature is to protect oneself. And so we will lie or at least not tell the whole truth to do that. And we ought not that we will pay the price. Like what the consequences are always coming for every lie. And I've got those stories. And, um, but so we're always this mixed bag of telling the truth and not telling the truth.