Adrian Kaler

and usually defense looks like being blunt usually goes to, you know, strong arming goes to, um, you know, these are all these flips on this. I'm going through the graphs in my head, but we go all, we all go there just to defend ourselves. So now, uh, so that's a cool assessment. I can send you the assessment. We could talk through it. It's really great.

and usually defense looks like being blunt usually goes to, you know, strong arming goes to, um, you know, these are all these flips on this. I'm going through the graphs in my head, but we go all, we all go there just to defend ourselves. So now, uh, so that's a cool assessment. I can send you the assessment. We could talk through it. It's really great.

Um, now, but on a personal front, I know if I'm, if I have, I mean, for a whole era, like after I left that first marriage, um, I got sober and did all this stuff and turned my life around. But what I used to do to ground myself, which is my language for what you're talking about, how do I ground myself? Well, I've got to get clear on what matters to me no matter what.

Um, now, but on a personal front, I know if I'm, if I have, I mean, for a whole era, like after I left that first marriage, um, I got sober and did all this stuff and turned my life around. But what I used to do to ground myself, which is my language for what you're talking about, how do I ground myself? Well, I've got to get clear on what matters to me no matter what.

And how do I get myself out of... the mood that I find myself in, whether it's elation or whether it's deprivation, whatever it is, and find the most healthy mood that's the most, I would call it generative, right? So I can be really clear, be really straight with someone and be really loving simultaneously. Back to the first part of the conversation, both masculine and feminine.

And how do I get myself out of... the mood that I find myself in, whether it's elation or whether it's deprivation, whatever it is, and find the most healthy mood that's the most, I would call it generative, right? So I can be really clear, be really straight with someone and be really loving simultaneously. Back to the first part of the conversation, both masculine and feminine.

How do I do that? For me, I used to literally write on my thumb GHG on my thumb every morning for about two years. Why did I do that? GHG stood for three things, grateful, honest, and generous. And it was an icon for me to know, oh, that's home for me. I'm grateful, meaning I'm not at all interested in self-pity. Whatever's here is beautiful. Not like fantasy land. It's first off.

How do I do that? For me, I used to literally write on my thumb GHG on my thumb every morning for about two years. Why did I do that? GHG stood for three things, grateful, honest, and generous. And it was an icon for me to know, oh, that's home for me. I'm grateful, meaning I'm not at all interested in self-pity. Whatever's here is beautiful. Not like fantasy land. It's first off.

I can start with wherever we are. If someone is blowing it, I can start there and I will start there. It's the only only place start anyway is to start there. And I'm grateful for I'm grateful for this opportunity. I'm the leader. I employ this person. I feed their family, help them feed their family, however you want to say it. And they're struggling, obviously, based on results.

I can start with wherever we are. If someone is blowing it, I can start there and I will start there. It's the only only place start anyway is to start there. And I'm grateful for I'm grateful for this opportunity. I'm the leader. I employ this person. I feed their family, help them feed their family, however you want to say it. And they're struggling, obviously, based on results.

They're struggling. And I'm called to this moment in time. This is cool. I'm the guy, the right guy for the job. Why? I'm the guy in the job. So I'm grateful for it. Honest, which has been more of, especially at that time, was more of a struggle for me. I mean, I had been lied to lots of people, but I also, most importantly, lied to myself.

They're struggling. And I'm called to this moment in time. This is cool. I'm the guy, the right guy for the job. Why? I'm the guy in the job. So I'm grateful for it. Honest, which has been more of, especially at that time, was more of a struggle for me. I mean, I had been lied to lots of people, but I also, most importantly, lied to myself.

Like I was unwilling to have thousands of conversations, which is why I got in such a bad spot in my own life. So honest really means full self-expression. I'm going to say what's there for me. I might not know what's there for me, but I'm going to explore what's there for me. With them, man, I'm going to take a shot. I'm not going to hide. I'm not going to be a doormat.

Like I was unwilling to have thousands of conversations, which is why I got in such a bad spot in my own life. So honest really means full self-expression. I'm going to say what's there for me. I might not know what's there for me, but I'm going to explore what's there for me. With them, man, I'm going to take a shot. I'm not going to hide. I'm not going to be a doormat.

I'm not going to be a strong arm. I'm going to be real with what's there for me. Even the confusion, I'll just put language to the confusion because it's probably similar to what they're feeling. If I'm the leader and I'm confused, we better believe they're confused. Probably worse. They're probably really resentful because I'm paid to be clear. And then generous. Maybe the most important.

I'm not going to be a strong arm. I'm going to be real with what's there for me. Even the confusion, I'll just put language to the confusion because it's probably similar to what they're feeling. If I'm the leader and I'm confused, we better believe they're confused. Probably worse. They're probably really resentful because I'm paid to be clear. And then generous. Maybe the most important.

I don't know. But I'm here to make a difference for them. I'm here to make an impact for them, period. And it doesn't matter who they are with me. They could be angry and full of shit and whatever. That's cool. I'll start there. Man, you're struggling. I said this to a client last week. I think you're lying to me. And that's okay. I've lied before. Can we talk about it?

I don't know. But I'm here to make a difference for them. I'm here to make an impact for them, period. And it doesn't matter who they are with me. They could be angry and full of shit and whatever. That's cool. I'll start there. Man, you're struggling. I said this to a client last week. I think you're lying to me. And that's okay. I've lied before. Can we talk about it?

So being generous, and obviously I mean as a way of being, not just like giving money and that kind of stuff, but to be a generous being. So that's one of the ways I do it, have done it in the past, still do it. It might even be shorter than that. I remember in key moments in my life, I would just have little mantras to myself like I'm a gift. I'm a gift. I'm a gift. I'm a gift. Yeah.

So being generous, and obviously I mean as a way of being, not just like giving money and that kind of stuff, but to be a generous being. So that's one of the ways I do it, have done it in the past, still do it. It might even be shorter than that. I remember in key moments in my life, I would just have little mantras to myself like I'm a gift. I'm a gift. I'm a gift. I'm a gift. Yeah.