Alessandra Ram

The sad wives of AI are a sort of symptom of the AI tech boom, especially here in the Bay Area.

And I noticed this because it was happening in my own life, in my own house.

So I recently had a baby, so I've been home a lot more.

And my husband has taken on a very intense job where he's building AI for his company.

So...

Unfortunately, he married a journalist, so I'm just noticing and studying things and thinking about if there's anything here to write about because it started to really affect the dynamics of the household.

He was totally consumed by...

by building this AI tool at this company where the demands just seemed out of control.

You know, he's up all hours of the night.

I'm up all hours of the night with the baby.

So it was just like there was this tension in the house and he was increasingly obsessed.

And I was just sort of like pulling back, less interested in what he was doing because I have to focus on everything else, right?

So I started noticing that this was also happening to friends of mine.

You know, I live here in the Bay Area.

A lot of people work in tech.

And in my friend group, most of those people are actually the male partners, if we're talking about, you know, heterosexual relationships, which I did for the

some of those men work in AI or are trying to work in AI.

And they sort of described the same thing that I was experiencing each day and night, just like this sort of obsession, you know, even just like this passion, they would say about Claude Code and

Every iteration of PlogCode, which as we know is every week, just the excitement and sort of like my friends are like dying inside a little bit, right?

Every week was their Super Bowl.