Alex Partridge

And it's up to you to decide what's urgent.

Don't let somebody, maybe it's a boss, maybe it's somebody you don't know very well, pressure you into thinking that there's urgency to give a commitment

right now, you can make that decision yourself.

And by saying, can I let you know tomorrow, you're giving a non-answer, you're buying yourself time, which will enable you to then think about whether you actually want to do that thing or not, rather than letting the masked version of you lead the way, which often...

puts you in a position you don't really want to be in.

And it's very hard to turn a yes into a no.

It's easier to turn a can I think about it into a yes.

Yes.

Yeah, exactly.

It's so important to prioritize your own energy and your own well-being and what you want to do rather than being pressurized into doing something that you don't want to do.

Okay, number 21.

So this is one of the three that I think are going to help the most.

A mental health day.

You know, I think so many people with all-DHD wake up and you're just completely dysregulated.

You wake up, you can feel that you're approaching burnout, you've had a really stressful, really overstimulating couple of days, and you feel that inability to focus, that brain fog, that irritability.

And I think we should really normalize having...

mental health days and advocating for yourself and taking that day off work and doing whatever it takes in that 24 hours to bring yourself back to a regulated space, spending time with yourself, taking a long walk, spending time with people that you really, really like.

Because if you don't, if you just work through that dysregulated space, if you force yourself to go to work or you force yourself to go to that thing you said yes to, then you're only going to crash into burnout and then you're going to need three or four days off to recover from that burnout.

So it's really beneficial for everyone when you are in that dysregulated space and you wake up and you feel like you just can't do today to advocate for yourself and just take that day off.

What would I do?