Alex Tarnava

You know, we're all human.

We all will have our emotions flare up.

We are a different person at every moment, depending on what happened to us in the previous moment.

So perhaps I snap at someone.

Why?

Well, maybe it was the interaction I had immediately before.

And so now I might be mad at that person, but was I justified in how mad I was?

Right.

Or maybe a misunderstanding led to confusion on both ends that escalated.

So I like replaying the worst conversations I've had in a day to try and identify where they went wrong and where they broke down and what my responsibility in that breakdown was.

And it goes in both directions, right?

You know, people say aggressive things that they never would have said in the past because there were real physical consequences.

You're already saying that.

That's true.

But then at the other side, they're saying maybe vile things to a girl and there's no repercussions for saying that.

You'd never say that to someone in person, right?

But then you're also not getting the confidence.

And you're not going through that productive struggle in, okay, this didn't work, right?

I, you know, tried to approach that girl or I had that conversation with that person that didn't go how I wanted to go.

And we're not forced to think about why, you know, why didn't it go the way I want to go?