Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

This isn't about becoming precious.

This is about what is going to wear me down and wear me down emotionally versus what is hard work that I can face, that I can really work through and become better for it.

There are certain things in my life that are high stress, but they're not emotionally draining.

They don't

beat me down into this nub of my former self.

Okay.

That's the difference.

Okay.

Hard work, needing grit, tenacity, being put under pressure, working under pressure.

There is nothing wrong with that.

And I'm not saying running away from that, but we have to know the difference.

And that, in my opinion, is where peace of mind comes from.

And it comes from ultimately how you feel as an individual when no one else is around.

How are you validating yourself?

When you start to realize what's important and what's not important, you start to learn how to begin to validate yourself.

It's very easy to get caught up in the bullshit if that is what is in your awareness 24-7.

If you're always, let's say you're stuck in this friendship group, for an example.

And you're going round and round and round.

The dramas that exist in that friendship group can seem life or death.

And I'm not trying to be dramatic, but it can.