Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And why is it that so many people also really suffer?

And why is it that there's such a difference in experiences?

And obviously I can only speak for my own experience.

So it's not something that I can easily talk on the matter.

But I have spoken to a lot of women who have had a lot of identity crises when they've gone through, you know, the postpartum experience.

And a lot of the things that they talk about is this autonomy, the ownership of your own time and how all of that goes out the window.

And for me, because I feel well-supported, and I'm not saying that women who are well-supported have to find it easy and have to be happy.

There are many women who are like, well, no, no, my partner's great, all of this is great, but it's still hormonally and emotionally a massive burden

mountain that I've got to climb every day.

So again, I've got to be careful when I talk about this because I'm not out to hurt someone when I say what I say.

But I feel like ultimately the concept of autonomy plays very heavily into how happy and satisfied you feel with your life.

separate to the fact that you've got dependence, if you feel that you still own parts of your life and certain parts of your life are just for you, you are going to feel calmer, happier, and more fulfilled.

I don't care if your purpose is to have children and to be a parent and that's all you want in your life.

You always still have to do something for you.

At the end of the day, you have to say, I'm also living my life for me as well, okay?

And that is where autonomy kind of ties into this.

What am I doing that shows that I have

ownership of this decision, that I have ownership of my body, my thoughts, and at least pockets of my time in my day.

If you feel that you are living 100% for everyone else except yourself, you are going to find it really difficult and that's where a lot of suffering comes from, rightfully so, okay?

Now, let's go into the fucking statements that I want you to go through.