Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

But these are the three that I wanted to give you as an idea.

Clarity.

When I, you know, had heartbreaks or quote unquote failures or rejections or being abandoned and all of that stuff.

The thing that it gave me ultimately after wasting a lot of time and emotions, you know, hoping that things would go back and all of that, it gave me clarity.

Then I started to realise the amount of time in my life that I've wasted, literally wasted, hoping for someone who I knew wasn't into me, knew wasn't right for me or a career that I knew wasn't going to be it for me.

Instead of just being like, instead of hoping and avoiding the real answer and

I need clarity because clarity might give you the heartbreak.

And what I mean by that, let's say you're in a situationship and you're so head over heels this person, but you're not getting the clear answers from them.

And the reason you don't want to confront them about getting clear answers because you're scared for them to say, you know what, I actually don't like you back in that way.

I don't want to be in a committed relationship with you.

So what do you do?

You avoid the difficult conversations so you can have the crumbs that they're giving you.

You can have the little dregs of the pockets of time in their wake that they can be bothered to give to you.

And you'll put up with that for God knows how long.

When you prioritize clarity, you think no matter how painful this conversation is going to be, nothing is more important than my time.

Nothing.

Because it's the one resource you can never get back no matter what you do.

So you think clarity is everything.

If it means a rejection, but saving my ass some fucking time, I'm going for clarity.

If it means having that really awkward conversation with my boss and maybe potentially going down a different career path, I'm going to prioritize that because it's clarity.