Alfie Kohn
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385 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Oct 2018
last heard Oct 2018
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I know you like that toy a lot.
That helps the child to construct a sense of himself as
a person who wants to make other people happy.
As opposed to praise, which just leads the kid to think about how do I make mommy or daddy happy?
So I I talk more about this of course in the books and alternatives to it, but
Um and I realize that with with kids who are less verbal
and kids who struggle to make sense of social interactions, um, there's no getting around the fact.
There's no shortcut to the fact that it does take more time and patience.
But the shortcut of of bribes and threats
doesn't get us anywhere near where we want to go.
It just makes the job harder.
Well, when I start when I do a workshop for parents, I begin by asking, never mind what my goals are.
What are your goals?
How do you want your kid to turn out?
What do you hope your child will be like years from now?
And I asked everybody to think about that for a bit and then I asked them to
To tell me, I just go round the room and ask
Do you have an adjective for me?
And I've been doing this a long time.
And I've done it all over the world and I've done it with typical and atypical kids, with younger and older kids, with parents and teachers in urban and rural areas and so on.
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