Alfie Kohn
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385 appearances
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first heard Oct 2018
last heard Oct 2018
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And it doesn't for for children.
So sometimes we can just say, I noticed that you did such and such.
To help the child reflect on having done it and maybe why he or she did it or didn't do something.
And then the lo the other thing we can do, um, instead of
Praise.
Again, praise, like rewards and other rewards and punishments, is a doing to approach.
So part of a working with approach is to ask questions.
How come you did that?
Why did you decide to d I mean, that's with all sorts of I remember when my
daughter was drawing like crazy, you know, when she was quite young.
No, I wouldn't
The last thing I want to do is steal her pleasure and pride in what she's done by telling her in effect that she has to look to me to decide that what she's done is is good or impressive or nice.
Instead I would say things like, Wow, you you put toes on on those on those animals.
I don't think you did that last week.
How did you decide to put toes on?
That pulls her into
Oh her drawing.
instead of praise which pulls her out of the drawing and into my face to see if I approve.
Um or I could ask, how come you decided to let Frank
Play with your toy.
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