Alfie Kohn

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And so on.

So why are we treating them like pets who are not human beings at at all?

And maybe part of the answer to your question of, you know, why do we feel this need to constantly correct them

is that we're afraid of being um judged by other people.

know, that's why have you ever seen a a a parent, you know, with a a little baby in a stroller and somebody

You know, s gives him a little toy and you say, Can you say thank you?

No, the child is too young to say thank you and

If the child doesn't feel any gratitude, when you tell kids they have to say thank you or I'm sorry, you're just teaching them to be insincere.

But in any case the reason we say that is because we're talking through the kid to say to the other adult, I know how to be a good parent.

So we worry more about how we'll be judged.

for the way our children act, then we are worried about

What the kid needs, what's in the kid's best interest, and so on.

And one of the things that's really in the kids' best interest and that's so critical is

It's our relationship.

That your child needs to know

That he or she has in you a caring ally.

Someone in whom

He or she can trust.

Someone who's always there.

Someone who

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