Alfie Kohn
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385 appearances
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first heard Oct 2018
last heard Oct 2018
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That's
It's highly unrealistic.
As soon as you offer a reward to a child for doing something, you've made your job as a parent tougher.
Because the kid now has that much less in terms of an authentic commitment to doing it.
You have responded.
with a form of control.
And you know, guess what?
People don't really like to be controlled, and so there tends to be that
That reactivity
There tends to be
that loss of intrinsic motivation and there tends to be that response to the conditionality of the response.
the ways in which we're saying to kids, I don't love you for who you are.
I just get excited about you when you do what I demand.
You know, so much of this too is focused on the m the misconception that we need to focus on kids' behavior.
I my rule of thumb is
If if there was ever something named after me called Cohn's Law, which of course there never will be, but if there were, this this is what it would be
the value of a resource for parents
is inversely proportional to the number of times it contains the word behavior.
When you have books or articles or
or podcasts or seminars that talk about a lot about kids' behavior, it's time to run the other way.
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