Alfie Kohn
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385 appearances
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first heard Oct 2018
last heard Oct 2018
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Because when it when you're focused on behaviour, you're not focused on
The values and motives and needs
That
Under pin.
behavior.
You're not focused on the child anymore, only on what the child does at the surface.
So you're not getting besides being sort of disrespectful, you're not getting to the source of whatever the problem is.
That's why anyone who
You know, the the the central
ideology that gets in the way of doing right by children
his behaviorism.
And the people who want you to become an accountant, keeping track of of kids kids' actions and then giving them doggy biscuits when you like those actions.
Um, I I think you're right that they get that they internalize that that message often lifelong, and that's not just kids who you describe as being wired differently, that's all.
All people who are raised with
With rewards and punishments, with conditional parenting.
This is why it's critical to realise.
that it's not just criticism that makes kids feel like they're not okay as they are, it's praise.
Praise says when you do this
I will say, Good job, you know, way to go, high five, fist bumps, big smile, hug, and so on.
It's when you put those strings on it.
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