Alicia Keys
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221 appearances
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Apr 2025
Alicia Keys’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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We've seen our parents experience it in different ways. We've seen our friends experience it. go through it in different ways, and therefore that becomes the normal for us. And when we kind of crave it, we become addicted to it, even without knowing it.
So I think that practice of like that perhaps is one of the opening when you said, how did you get to a place where you could find yourself in a place where you are, I think part of that practice really did have to come to spending time with myself. And I made every excuse why I couldn't spend time with my kids. I can't do it. My kids, you know, I can't leave them by themselves.
I can't do it because I got to, you know, who else is going to do? I got to feed the family. You know, we got to do. And they all seem valid. Makes sense to me. Yeah, that's true. Your kids, you should probably make sure your kids are good. And if I don't make sure I'm good, How can I make sure anybody is good ever? And so spending time with myself was, I fought against it so much.
But when I started to do it, I realized that I was more powerful than I'd ever been. And I was faster. I was able to do things quicker and more efficiently because I wasn't so cloudy, you know? And that was cool. That was cool. When you start to feel that way, you're like, oh, I don't have to spend so much time doing whatever action because I actually know what I want to do. And I'm decisive.
Man, I felt so good. I had never felt decisive before in my life. I'd never felt clear without thousands of other opinions. I never felt like my own self. So that was big. But spending time with myself was, I believe, one of the keys to that.
Fix my shirt real quick. The gifts, one of the gifts that I got from my mother, I would say, is her strength. I feel like I really bore witness to a woman who was like, not to be, like she just really, and I don't know if she wore that as an armor, you know, or what that was, but I found her to be quite like, like straight and clear and strong. And there was kind of no getting around it.
And you kind of just knew, okay, this is what it is. And I feel like I really received a lot from that as a woman, as a young woman, as a woman who would have to be at the forefront of her own life and career and really have to be in my space of power, be around a lot of people that want to take your power, steal your light, lead you in the wrong spaces.
I had to kind of be in my strength and I did receive that from her. What I received from my father was, I think I also received a level of self-determination. Because I had a unique relationship. My mother and my father were not married or together. And so, one, I had to learn that that's actually not unique or different. You know, there's not some kind of like...
Family structure, that's like the main one. I think we get painted that picture so much and then we feel uncomfortable that ours doesn't look like that. But so I had to kind of know who I was also. even in our relationship. And so I got a sense of self as well, sense of self. The gap from the sense of self that I received from my father was probably maybe some feelings of not being worthy.
So I received some of that and I had to restructure my brain around. And from my mother, I think I got a sense of fixing. I had to fix everything because in a lot of ways, if she was strong and angry, I had to be like soft and accommodating and kind of fix the situation. And so I think I received some of that, which I also had to rewire. No, no, no. I can't fix everything. I just can't.
And I can't be in my relationships like that because that's not going to work. Man, took lots of time. But those are my gifts and my gifts. I'm asking that to many people. This is a great question.
So that's the complex part.
He's definitely taught me how to be like much more in the flow. Like it's all about kind of the magic of the moment and allowing the flow, like just slide into the slipstream, let it happen.
Like, let it happen. That's been a big lesson he's given me. And what I've been able to give him is probably a little bit more of like, let's design what we want to happen. You know, as we're letting it happen, let's also like design it and craft it and strategize it and create it and schedule it so that it can really, really happen. And I love how we... balance each other like that.
There's been just so much growth between us and so in such a positive way because we really do compliment each other. So it feels natural in those ways.
Yeah, no, I think it's a good point. Well, first of all, I don't think... I think actually it tends to work better when there's two different perspectives, right? Because if you think exactly what I think and I think exactly what you think, then we might get to that place of... Boredom that we discussed. But what I took from what you said on board, I took almost like there's not a stimuli, right?
There's not like the stimulation that comes sometimes. And I think that might happen if you're almost too similar. There's a stimulation from meeting an opposition and meeting like a different way of thinking and then having to think about it and put it into your world. So, yeah, I think that... The flow is just because I love how he thinks and how he thinks is so uniquely him.
And it does inspire me. And yet I can still be connected to my own. And similarly, I think how I think does inspire him. He says, let me think about that more. Let me put a little more thought into how we're doing this. And yet doesn't have to take him from his own. So we've ever since the day our vows. were about this idea of loving with an open hand.
There's a beautiful thought of loving with an open hand and You know, that everyone should be free to fly as they want to fly. There should never be a closed hand over around someone.
Oh, I really like that.
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