Alison Fagan

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593 appearances 3 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 19 Jul

Alison Fagan’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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And then the fourth one, which is a bit of a stinger, is the other person needs to accept the apology.

Because if an apology is being given with real, genuine sincerity.

It ought to be accepted.

It doesn't mean that you have to forgive immediately.

That's two separate things.

But to be open to the person's sincerity and their efforts and say, I hear your sincerity in this apology and I accept it.

And again, forgiveness is a separate thing.

You know, forgiveness can happen maybe a year down the road depending on

the the size of the the wound or the heart, you know.

Absolutely.

You know, positive reinforcement is huge.

If you want somebody to change, it's like the carrot and the stick, do I criticize the hell out of them?

Or do I say what I'd really like them to do and then thank them for when they do it?

So this idea that um, you know, th this person is constantly criticizing me, she's always giving out to me, she's always saying what I'm doing wrong.

That's never gonna get you very far, constant criticism.

It's just gonna really take the spark and the joy out of your relationship.

So if you can, which is difficult, change your criticism into a request.

Every criticism has an implied request.

It's just that we don't verbalize a request.

So rather than um you never help me around the house, you walk out of here and you close the door and I'm left to do everything with the kids.

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