Allie Volpe

I'm doing a follow-up story about dating standards and expectations specifically. And, you know, like going back to the 70s, 80s, you know, if you would poll women about like what they were looking for in men, they're often looking for these like provider type qualities of they're high earner, they're going to protect, they're going to support.

And men just as consistently are like, I just want somebody hot. Yeah.

And men just as consistently are like, I just want somebody hot. Yeah.

And men just as consistently are like, I just want somebody hot. Yeah.

Nice. And these expectations have persisted, like, from the 80s until, you know, recently. Like, these things have not really changed very much. A recent YouGov poll found that men prioritize sex, romance, and physical attraction more than women, while women emphasize empathy, monogamy, and independence more.

Nice. And these expectations have persisted, like, from the 80s until, you know, recently. Like, these things have not really changed very much. A recent YouGov poll found that men prioritize sex, romance, and physical attraction more than women, while women emphasize empathy, monogamy, and independence more.

Nice. And these expectations have persisted, like, from the 80s until, you know, recently. Like, these things have not really changed very much. A recent YouGov poll found that men prioritize sex, romance, and physical attraction more than women, while women emphasize empathy, monogamy, and independence more.

This is, I think, a good consequence of the Me Too movement, I think, is that there's been like a wider discussion about like what behavior women would consider predatory or inappropriate. So I think there's more of an understanding that like you shouldn't be creepy and harass women, which is great. Like that is wonderful.

This is, I think, a good consequence of the Me Too movement, I think, is that there's been like a wider discussion about like what behavior women would consider predatory or inappropriate. So I think there's more of an understanding that like you shouldn't be creepy and harass women, which is great. Like that is wonderful.

This is, I think, a good consequence of the Me Too movement, I think, is that there's been like a wider discussion about like what behavior women would consider predatory or inappropriate. So I think there's more of an understanding that like you shouldn't be creepy and harass women, which is great. Like that is wonderful.

And Richard Reeves, the expert I talked to, he's the president of the American Institute for Boys and Men, and he wrote a book also called Of Boys and Men, Why the Modern Male is Struggling, Why it Matters, and What to Do About It. He told me that the men that he works with, like, generally understand this. Like, don't be a creep. But that's getting in the way of them dating, you know?

And Richard Reeves, the expert I talked to, he's the president of the American Institute for Boys and Men, and he wrote a book also called Of Boys and Men, Why the Modern Male is Struggling, Why it Matters, and What to Do About It. He told me that the men that he works with, like, generally understand this. Like, don't be a creep. But that's getting in the way of them dating, you know?

And Richard Reeves, the expert I talked to, he's the president of the American Institute for Boys and Men, and he wrote a book also called Of Boys and Men, Why the Modern Male is Struggling, Why it Matters, and What to Do About It. He told me that the men that he works with, like, generally understand this. Like, don't be a creep. But that's getting in the way of them dating, you know?

Like, they're so in their heads about it. Like, they don't want to come off as, like, a quote-unquote bad guy, but they're just sort of opting out of it altogether. Yeah.

Like, they're so in their heads about it. Like, they don't want to come off as, like, a quote-unquote bad guy, but they're just sort of opting out of it altogether. Yeah.

Like, they're so in their heads about it. Like, they don't want to come off as, like, a quote-unquote bad guy, but they're just sort of opting out of it altogether. Yeah.

Something else I've been thinking about a lot is more people are going to therapy, that is a good thing. But out of that has come like the emergence of therapy speak where people are misusing terms that are vaguely like pop psychology that like not even a therapist would use. You know, if anyone has what you deem like a quote unquote red flag, it's a no go.

Something else I've been thinking about a lot is more people are going to therapy, that is a good thing. But out of that has come like the emergence of therapy speak where people are misusing terms that are vaguely like pop psychology that like not even a therapist would use. You know, if anyone has what you deem like a quote unquote red flag, it's a no go.

Something else I've been thinking about a lot is more people are going to therapy, that is a good thing. But out of that has come like the emergence of therapy speak where people are misusing terms that are vaguely like pop psychology that like not even a therapist would use. You know, if anyone has what you deem like a quote unquote red flag, it's a no go.

And so people are writing people off based on some of these red flags. But I think everybody is going to have something that might give you the quote unquote ick or, you know, might not be your dream standard. And we are more likely to write them off immediately because of that. You got to meet people in person. I think like, again, like apps are fine, but I think it's a tool.