Allison Holker
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558 appearances
4 recordings
3 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Feb 2025
Allison Holker’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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You have to be your own biggest supporter, you know, because no one else is going to do all that work for you. You have to do it for yourself.
but it was really hard and it was a struggle for me doing when i was growing up and so i find that even as an adult i do sometimes struggle with it and i think we should be more honest about it there are days are so hard to look yourself in the mirror be like i'm amazing you know and i actually recently had a conversation with my friend and she was like i love myself and i was like i was kind of like taken back by that and she was like have you never told yourself you love yourself
And she's like, I know you love affirmations, but have you ever told yourself you love yourself? And I was like, no, I had never done that. So that's actually the newest thing that I've added to my affirmations in the morning is I end it with, I love me. I love myself.
And I know that sounds crazy, but I had not done that until about this last year because I wasn't a bit of a low, you know, with the-
You know, I do still struggle as an adult, especially with the kind of grief I went through the last couple of years with me and my children. Like I... Even though I have been doing affirmations and, you know, been so independent my whole life since childhood and taking care of myself with the kind of grief I went through, it broke me for a second.
And I feel like I had to go back down to ground zero and rebuild that strength in me. I had to rebuild that confidence. I had to rebuild confidence. who I am sitting in this chair to this day. And it took a lot of work and it took not just myself work, but it took a lot of commitment from my friends and family around me, really supporting me and lifting me up and therapy, a lot of therapy.
But I'm proud of that work. And I never stopped doing those things. Even on my hardest days, I was like, I have to stick to it. And then I, of course, added some other tools into my repertoire that really, really helped that were a little bit more physical. Because I think mentally I had these affirmations I was doing.
And now my friend telling me, which I only started doing that about a year ago, that I love myself. And it felt crazy. The first time I said I love myself felt insane. But I even did it with like the hands because I was like, I'm going to do it. to scream it out loud to myself.
So I've added these things, not just with the spiritual and the mental aspect, but I've also added cold plunging to my life and sitting in my sauna. And it has just been such a game changer for me. And I think what I often tell people is like, how did you get so much self-confidence? And I was like, it was from self-dedication.
I have so many things that are non-negotiables that I do in my life now that I commit to. And that, even those little things you commit to doing daily, they're little wins that build up like I did that for me. I did that for myself. And so I cold plunge in the mornings almost every morning for like five minutes at 55 degrees. It's brutal. But I know if I do the hard things, I can succeed.
And then I like sit in my sauna three times a week, which I know I'm very, very, I'm very, very spoiled to have those things at my grasp. I understand that. But I take full advantage of having them. And they've blessed me so much in my life. I work out, I eat healthy, I take time with friends and take time with therapy.
So all those little wins keep me going and knowing that I'm doing something to really become the best version of myself.
I honestly, I just feel like it was always in me. I really do. I think it can be learned. I think it can definitely be a learned trait. But ever since I was little and since I was young, I was just like, I can do this. The thing that I know is my gift is I've never doubted myself. Wow.
I never like, you know, there's been moments here or there I get a little bit shy or hesitant about it or let people get in my head a little bit. But I've always known I'm going to succeed. I can figure this out. I can do it. I can raise my kids. I can be that single mom. I can be a support system. I can have this career. I can be a career and be a single mom.
I've always known I could just survive and do it. And I always knew I could do it with a smile on my face because I think since I was young, I have always believed and I understood and I still understand that life is the gift. And I've never wanted to let life get away from me. I want to experience as much as I can. And I want to do it having fun with the people I love.
And I want to experience it all, which is also the thing that kind of harmed me the most is I've always wanted to have such a big life. But if you want to have that big life and you want to go after your dreams and if you want to go after your career, if you want to go out and see the whole world, well, there's going to also be grief in there.
to make you appreciate all the things that you're doing. And so I've always known that I just, for whatever reason, I just don't hold back. I just have such this belief that we're supposed to go out here and do anything and everything we want. But that comes with other kinds of stakes as well.
And, you know, like running your own business and becoming the entrepreneur and, you know, starting to write books and starting to have this career and being a single mother and doing all these things. There's a price to also pay for having all that at your grasp, you know, but that doesn't hold me back. I still want to do it and do more. But that is just something that's always lived inside me.
And I will say my parents, my dad was an explorer of life. He always wanted to see and experience everything. And he always tells these wild stories that when I was a young girl hearing all these stories, I was like, I want to live a big life like that. I want to go see and have these wild stories, experiences that almost seem fake when you hear them talk.
But then I also had a foundation from my mother that was this work ethic that she had all these jobs and she constantly pushed herself to be at every dance event that she could afford to go to to support me while hosting these jobs. And now also she was raising four other kids while she was raising me.
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