Alyssa Nobriga

And you have to exaggerate it because then you just start laughing because you can see how absurd it is. But then this part of us got to be expressed and allowed. And there's oftentimes nothing to do after it. But these are just helpful things that people can try. Again, you have to ask, can you hold? Because if you are not regulated, it's not going to be a healthy conversation.

And you have to exaggerate it because then you just start laughing because you can see how absurd it is. But then this part of us got to be expressed and allowed. And there's oftentimes nothing to do after it. But these are just helpful things that people can try. Again, you have to ask, can you hold? Because if you are not regulated, it's not going to be a healthy conversation.

But I love what you're saying. It's like, we can have practices like this. And the foundation of how we be with each other is loving, is respectful. There's not going to be any blaming.

But I love what you're saying. It's like, we can have practices like this. And the foundation of how we be with each other is loving, is respectful. There's not going to be any blaming.

But I love what you're saying. It's like, we can have practices like this. And the foundation of how we be with each other is loving, is respectful. There's not going to be any blaming.

And it may sound like part of the examples you were sharing are taking personal responsibility, which is also super easy for somebody to hear when you're upset because it's just sharing your experience without the blame.

And it may sound like part of the examples you were sharing are taking personal responsibility, which is also super easy for somebody to hear when you're upset because it's just sharing your experience without the blame.

And it may sound like part of the examples you were sharing are taking personal responsibility, which is also super easy for somebody to hear when you're upset because it's just sharing your experience without the blame.

Foundational.

Foundational.

Foundational.

Yeah. I was going to ask you like what some myths are that you hear or misunderstandings because one of them, and I'll give an example if you have any, would be like, don't go to bed upset. I actually don't believe that. I think that if you are both dysregulated, continuing the conversation isn't gonna be productive.

Yeah. I was going to ask you like what some myths are that you hear or misunderstandings because one of them, and I'll give an example if you have any, would be like, don't go to bed upset. I actually don't believe that. I think that if you are both dysregulated, continuing the conversation isn't gonna be productive.

Yeah. I was going to ask you like what some myths are that you hear or misunderstandings because one of them, and I'll give an example if you have any, would be like, don't go to bed upset. I actually don't believe that. I think that if you are both dysregulated, continuing the conversation isn't gonna be productive.

So I would rather say, let's pause, let's regulate ourselves and come back to this in 10 minutes or tomorrow morning. You have to say when you're gonna come back so you don't trigger the part of your partner that has abandonment or whatever the other pattern is. But to regulate instead of just trying to keep going because you heard, don't go to bed upset. I don't buy into that.

So I would rather say, let's pause, let's regulate ourselves and come back to this in 10 minutes or tomorrow morning. You have to say when you're gonna come back so you don't trigger the part of your partner that has abandonment or whatever the other pattern is. But to regulate instead of just trying to keep going because you heard, don't go to bed upset. I don't buy into that.

So I would rather say, let's pause, let's regulate ourselves and come back to this in 10 minutes or tomorrow morning. You have to say when you're gonna come back so you don't trigger the part of your partner that has abandonment or whatever the other pattern is. But to regulate instead of just trying to keep going because you heard, don't go to bed upset. I don't buy into that.

I'm curious if there are other ones that you have found debunk.

I'm curious if there are other ones that you have found debunk.

I'm curious if there are other ones that you have found debunk.