Alyssa

Yeah.

I don't think he knows how to do that I think him working away like causes him to and and I know our therapist was like is there any way you could take a leave or whatever so you can be home and work on this and see and just financially like we can't we're not there like I can't make the money he makes he makes so much money so this is just a slow process but for sure like

Yeah.

And I know I've heard you say that on like a call.

She gave like three years to like her boyfriend or something like to be engaged.

And you were like, three years is way too long because now he's going to,

Play the long game and he's going to enjoy that three years.

And so you told her like, you need to take that down to like a year.

And then he knows that you're being serious.

And so I'm like, well, maybe six months.

Waiting for it to explode.

I talked to my therapist yesterday about it and I was like, she thinks six months is too long.

She thinks he should know where he's at or I should know what I want to do less than that.

So she was like, maybe in January when we have our meeting, like we figure out like where he's at, because if he's still at, I don't know, then we just need to call it.

Well, he feels like when I'm there with the kids that like,

I don't let him parent or whatever.

Oh, 100%.

They haven't done that yet.

They haven't had that yet because it was just so recent.

Yeah.