Amber

I can own that.

I will lay in my bed and I made that bed.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And not once, but twice.

That's like what.

You don't want to be our couple's therapist because he rage texts the three of us constantly.

He'll only communicate with me sometimes via text, so.

I keep asking for like time and then he will demand something from me, like an answer about something the next, the next day or a few days later.

So I don't ever feel like to your point, I get to sort of sit with a decision that I make and like feel regardless of this other person, regardless of my husband, but like with myself and I'm in therapy and

by myself and i just have never given that opportunity like he's always sort of like demanding these things from me and i keep saying like you need to just give me a minute like i know i what's he like what's he demanding are we going to move forward with mediation are we going to move forward with a divorce like he demands an answer like immediately about these big heavy things and i'm just kind of like give me like a day to you know i need longer than that and then

Not great.

I mean, his dad passed from ALS and his dad's lovely and a fantastic person, but they didn't have, he left home when he was 18 and never went back.

He grew up in, like, parents did the best they could, but his brother was a very, very kind of intense drug addict, would, like, steal, and just, he was the younger brother, and so he was always sort of in the shadow of, like, this really dark stuff, and

He left and you would have a heyday with just all the things that have happened with this.

When we had our daughter, his brother passed like a few days before we had her and she was a scheduled C-section.

And he got the phone call and then just went back to sleep, like fell back asleep.

And it was three in the morning and I was like, well, what am I supposed to do?

Like, he never let me meet his brother.

Like, it was a very dark sort of like tumultuous thing.