Amy Cuddy
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard 28 Aug
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Let your freak flag fly and let other people do the same thing.
If they're not hurting other people, give people space to be themselves.
That's it.
you so much.
I think greatness is, I think people might think of it as sort of about being the most, sort of the best, the most competent.
I think it's a combination of being, yes, your most sort of effective self, but also your most generous self.
So greatness has to combine those two qualities, right?
It's about being both generous and capable.
Yes.
I often ask people, what is your biggest challenge? Like what is the situation that you approach with dread and that you execute with anxiety and that you leave with a sense of regret? And so if you look at all, so dread, that is you projecting yourself into a future that's not gone well. So you're borrowing trouble, basically.
The anxiety in the moment is you thinking more about what the other person thinks of you than what they're actually just thinking. You're worried about what you said a minute ago or what's gonna happen afterwards. You're not able to be in the present. And then regret is what we call post-event processing.
You're going over it wanting a do-over, going, I didn't show, I wasn't seen, they didn't see who I am. You know that feeling like, oh, they didn't see who I am. And you wanna go back in and like in a rom-com, you get to have a do-over. But in life, you don't. So that sense of regret becomes like a piece of baggage that you carry into the next similar situation.
And then you're worried because you don't want to do the same thing.
What if we could approach with the sense of composure and execute it with a kind of calm and grounded confidence and leave feeling satisfied. Even if we don't get the outcome that we want, we know that we did everything we could to show up. They saw who I was and it wasn't the right fit or whatever. And I can accept that outcome.
So you can both accept the outcome and not have that extra piece of baggage.
I don't even know where to begin. It's because there are also, first of all, if I make any statement about where I stand on that, there will be a million people telling me I'm absolutely wrong. But that's like, and the truth is complicated, right? Like, and in some ways, social media, like, so, you know, my son's on TikTok and I can't believe the,
the courage he has now to just put a video out there and sometimes it goes and sometimes it doesn't and he's fine if it doesn't go, if it doesn't move. So I think that that's actually been really good for him. He doesn't feel rejected. He just feels like, well, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but I'm never gonna know if I don't put myself out there. So I think in some ways,
young people have become more courageous at trying things. I mean, you know, yes, I would like them to spend less time on it. And I like that he's doing music. You know, he's like putting out my kid's doing quality content. But I think that in some ways it's actually given young people an opportunity to be braver. To express themselves in certain ways. Yeah, exactly.
And to sort of, to be rejected and see that they've survived, right? Yes. But rejection, the rejection that I'm talking about is a video, a TikTok video not going viral. It's not that it's, which is not the same as nasty comments, like being rejected and trolled. That's a different kind of rejection.
I hate to say something so simple, but yes. I am just not afraid to embarrass myself. That's good. And I have to sometimes... Hold on to that, because I think it was really important for my son to see that. To me, modeling that was really important.
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