Amy Cuddy
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard 28 Aug
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Yeah, making mistakes, being goofy, like doing something goofy in the grocery store.
Yeah, another one is being okay with like,
chatting with a stranger and maybe they don't want to chat and that's fine then you move on but like why not try those i think doing those things first of all i think it's great to model that for kids but i also think it's good to do it just to see that you've survived you're fine yeah no one cares exactly no one even cares remembering this for the rest of their life you might have made somebody smile right right so
Like, if you're terrified of- Well, I think that's a good one. I mean, like, chat with someone on the train or, and I know it's hard right now.
Yeah, or like, ask someone, Ask, you know, if you're, I don't know why grocery stores seem like places where lots of silly things can happen. You know, if someone's like checking out, checking you, what do you?
Checking you out, but that sounds funny, checking you out. You know what I mean? Like checking out your groceries. And they are looking down and they seem, you know, grumpy.
instead of deciding they're not friendly consider the possibility that they're having a bad day and and literally like pause and say how are you you know or like try to connect with them without being intrusive make eye contact with them thank them you know make eye contact maybe they'll just be annoyed and not make eye contact back. But I feel like that kind of thing is really important to try.
And those are things that create sort of social benefits for others as well.
I think the challenge for me has been adjusting to, you know, being more well known than the average academic, right?
And actually, you know, leaving academia. You know, I still teach, but I'm not, you know, I'm not.
No. You know, I teach in executive education at Harvard. but I'm not a professor. I'm a lecturer when I lecture. Leaving was hard. It was a big leap to leave that security, but it just was not the right world for me. But I think the biggest challenge really has been dealing with becoming higher sort of having, becoming higher profile and the kind of backlash that I endured as a result of that.
Which is not, yes. And well, yeah, I mean, criticism's fine, but bullying is not, you know? Right, right. I know that this is common. In fact, it happens to a lot of junior professors who give TED Talks.
Yeah. It's funny. Somebody just wrote to me yesterday. She has a popular TED Talk, and she said that at her university, people started calling her TED Girl and sort of talking down to her.
Because it was popular, right? It's like if it had not really hit the radar, it would have been okay. Really?
Yeah. People had to sort of diminish her in a way. And I experienced a lot of the same stuff. what became hard for me was talking to colleagues, standing up for myself. The truth is we need to stand up for each other. When people are in an acute bullying situation, they really can't stand up for themselves. But I'm still figuring out
how to engage with other people in academia who weren't necessarily bullies, but might've been bystanders who didn't do anything. But to be able to say, I still deserve to be having this conversation, I deserve, to have the beliefs that I have. I deserve to defend this massive area of research on body-mind feedback, of which I contribute a tiny bit to.
Just because these people don't like it doesn't mean I can't say, well, here's why I do believe it. That's really hard for me. That is the thing that I would approach with the most dread, I think.
I mean, for me, the thing that works the best is... I mean, certainly I do, like I walk expansively, like long strides before this kind of stressful thing. I won't sit down with my hands in my lap. Like even putting your hands behind your chair, like this is a big thing. Kind of opens you up a little bit. But it forces you to open up just doing that.
But the thing that works the best for me is breathing. And I know there is so much on breath work now and I don't wanna, you know, I'm not an expert. But the relaxation response that's triggered by certain breathing patterns is incredibly effective for me. And so basically it sends your nervous system into this rest and digest state, which is the opposite of fight, flee, or faint.
And so the one that I like best is called four, seven, eight breathing. And we can do it right now. So basically for four counts, you inhale. For seven, you hold your breath. And for eight, you exhale. So I'm going to count and you do it.
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