Anders Ronnau
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334 appearances
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first heard Feb 2017
last heard Feb 2017
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My um my assistant on the the live training I do for coaches told me that she'd been sitting around around a table with her family or her nephew.
And uh the nephew suddenly reached out and turned over the milk.
The milk carton.
And milk all over and people were yelling and screaming and degrading him for doing that again, again, again, again, again.
And and really like a bad setup.
And my assistant asked the kid, What were you trying to do?
Because you obviously didn't manage to do it.
What were you trying to do?
What was the positive intention, basically?
But she didn't ask the kid, the six year old kid about his positive intention.
So she was trying to ask him what he was trying to do and and he said, Well, I could see that my dad wanted the butter.
In a minute, like dad was almost ready for the butter and the kid really wanted to show his dad that he was a good kid, then pouring the milk all over the place and uh and getting berated by that same dad.
Uh
So if you can catch yourself.
And not just look at the behavior and what happens as a result of that behavior, but pause for a second and go, Wow, what was he trying to do?
What was actually an attempt of his that didn't succeed?
that will for most parents bring an end to a lot of conflicts.
Absolutely.
It's
Absolutely, because you reach out with curiosity instead of blame or anger.
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