Andy Stumpf

You're going to have and your kids might as well too.

There might be days where it seems like they're not being really impacted by this much.

And there may be other days where behavior is so outside of normal that you don't understand what's going on.

Maybe just think in the back of your head.

man, this might be the expression of whatever it is they're going through, trying to work through.

My point in saying that is as adults, we have better abilities to communicate and you can go out and find help for yourself.

Make sure you think of that for your kids.

And again, this depends.

I have no idea if they're infants, single digit age, tweens, teenagers, twenties, whatever it may be, but you said they were young.

So again,

There are people that specialize in helping young children, boys and girls, work through things like this.

So reach out wide.

Reach out proactively.

You don't have to wait for the tide to go up and down a bunch of times before you do that.

Find people that specialize in helping families go through this.

The last piece of advice I will give you is this.

I hope that everything goes well for you and this is amicable and it can be quick and it can be fair and that co-parenting will not be an issue for the rest of your boys' lives and that it'll be a stable environment on both sides and transfers will be seamless and communication about the kids will be seamless and you guys can absolutely define every aspect of co-parenting.

If that isn't the case, regardless of what the other side of that equation is doing or saying, or they are behaving,

Do not, under any circumstance, deviate from being the example that you want to set from your boys.

The other side of that is talking negatively about you.