Andy Tegel

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It's Been a Minute · To be or not to be a parent · 3 Jul 2026 podcast

So much of the hand-wringing about the baby decision, it seems, comes down to regret, just plain and simple.

Is it possible, Merle, not to have regrets, to be totally certain about being a parent or being child-free?

You're holding back without knowing it because of that daycare that you might need to be saving for because of X, Y, Z. Exactly.

Takeaway one.

Either side of this decision is going to come with regrets.

At least now and then.

So, there's no perfect choice.

There's just the right choice for you.

That said, I did ask Merle if there was any way to have both worlds.

And to my surprise, she said yes.

Actually, in a way, there is.

The answer...

if it makes sense, wait to have a baby until you're 38.

Now, if that magic number doesn't feel like the answer, takeaway two is

it's okay to feel stuck.

Yes, there are some people out there who always knew they wanted to be a daddy or that they never, ever wanted to go through pregnancy.

But Merle says many, many others are just right in the middle or maybe leaning slightly in one direction, say 60-40.

And if that's your split, she says that's a good start because that's the beginning of a decision.

And in her experience, she's found that 80-20 is about as solid as it gets for a lot of people.

Just something to keep in mind as you move forward.

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